Sexism is not a binary thing... There can be small degrees of deep-rooted sexism that are present in situations like the OP, which are mixed together with gener

Sexism is not a binary thing... There can be small degrees of deep-rooted sexism that are present in situations like the OP, which are mixed together with general rudeness and perhaps some over excitedness. In this case, calling the host "sexist" might even be a little unfair, as he his behavior might be closer to an actual social norm that contains some less extreme aspects of sexism. Instead, we might describe the event as a minor example of structural sexism in today's culture/society, without needing to label the host as a "sexist". Most importantly, we should realize that descriptions of events like this are very complex, subtle, immensely context dependent, time sensitive, and difficult. It is a moment in time, caught between decades of cultural shift and new ways of looking at things. It's not surprising people have different takes, and that you can't really call any specific interpretation perfectly correct. We are pushing up against current limits in our ability to understand and discuss certain visceral, important parts of the human experience. I don't think that trying to box things like this into one extreme or the other is helpful.