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If you're a white heterosexual male you're probably not used to being uncomfortable because the whole world was made for you. You don't feel uncomfortable when

If you're a white heterosexual male you're probably not used to being uncomfortable because the whole world was made for you. You don't feel uncomfortable when you see the police. You don't feel uncomfortable walking down your street at night by yourself. You don't feel uncomfortable going to your church. You don't feel uncomfortable kissing your spouse in the street. In my opinion, the discomfort you're feeling is nothing compared to the others I described. So get used to it. We do the right thing because it's right, not because it's easy.

discombobulate 9y ago
> If you're a white heterosexual male you're probably not used to being uncomfortable because the whole world was made for you. I was close to homeless a couple of times -- when I was younger. That didn't make the world feel like it was made for me. > You don't feel uncomfortable when you see the police. The last police I saw stopped their car and watched me walk down the road. > You don't feel uncomfortable walking down your street at night by yourself. Depends on where I am. > You don't feel uncomfortable going to your church. I don't believe in God. There's no evidence. There also seem to be many groups claiming their God is the correct God. The probability of picking the correct God seems low: given an infinite search space. > You don't feel uncomfortable kissing your spouse in the street. I don't have a spouse. And am probably not going to have a gf for a long time. I've had some health problems and the last girl I liked didn't like me back. > In my opinion, the discomfort you're feeling is nothing compared to the others I described. So get used to it. We do the right thing because it's right, not because it's easy. I'll take that into consideration.
StevePerkins 9y ago
There's a valid point somewhere in here that could be made, but this doesn't make it very well. You see, even as middle-class heterosexual white male... I still very much AM uncomfortable when dealing with police. I AM uncomfortable walking down a street alone at night (even in my own neighborhood). I WOULD feel awkward and self-conscious kissing my spouse in the middle of a street. I'm not sure if my mental wiring matches the majority of white people or not. But it definitely reflects a significant portion, if it's not flat-out "the norm". If any groups outside of heterosexual white males feel wronged because they don't feel such a level of comfort, then I imagine they will forever feel wronged. Because it doesn't describe MY comfort level, either. When people read stuff that's written this starkly, it is EXTREMELY easy to dismiss the concept of privilege. Because your description of white male life simply doesn't match our experience.
fsociety 9y ago
Not to underplay that growing up as, say, a black American in the projects comes with a whole host of horrific challenges, but this comment is incredibly sexist + racist. >> You don't feel uncomfortable when you see the police. I become incredibly uncomfortable around police, for many good reasons >> You don't feel uncomfortable walking down your street at night by yourself This as completely untrue. I've been followed several times by very shady people, and had one guy start charging me in the middle of the night from three blocks down - I jumped into a random taxi full of adrenaline. We were the only two people on the street as far as the eye could see. I've also had to redirect myself into crowded areas in the middle of daylight after shady characters were following me. Why is that? I live right beside a homeless camp and often these characters are shooting up on the street and then will yell at you about how they are going to "fucking murder" you. You'd probably be shocked to know that 95% of them are white males who were screwed by society. >> You don't feel uncomfortable going to your church I grew up going to church and always felt uncomfortable, it felt off to me. But I don't understand the point of this comment. I guess virtue signaling? >> You don't feel uncomfortable kissing your spouse in the street Damn right I don't. I can take you down streets where all sorts of minorities don't feel this way either. More virtue signaling? >> In my opinion, the discomfort you're feeling is nothing compared to the others I described. So get used to it. We do the right thing because it's right, not because it's easy. This is virtue signaling at its prime.
- eeZah7Ux 9y ago
  > I live right beside a homeless camp [...] You'd probably be shocked to know that 95% of them are white males There's a number of very vocal anti-racist or anti-sexist that seem to ignore or downplay discrimination based on class, employability and mental health. This can be very divisive.

discombobulate 9y ago

> If you're a white heterosexual male you're probably not used to being uncomfortable because the whole world was made for you. I was close to homeless a couple of times -- when I was younger. That didn't make the world feel like it was made for me. > You don't feel uncomfortable when you see the police. The last police I saw stopped their car and watched me walk down the road. > You don't feel uncomfortable walking down your street at night by yourself. Depends on where I am. > You don't feel uncomfortable going to your church. I don't believe in God. There's no evidence. There also seem to be many groups claiming their God is the correct God. The probability of picking the correct God seems low: given an infinite search space. > You don't feel uncomfortable kissing your spouse in the street. I don't have a spouse. And am probably not going to have a gf for a long time. I've had some health problems and the last girl I liked didn't like me back. > In my opinion, the discomfort you're feeling is nothing compared to the others I described. So get used to it. We do the right thing because it's right, not because it's easy. I'll take that into consideration.

StevePerkins 9y ago

There's a valid point somewhere in here that could be made, but this doesn't make it very well. You see, even as middle-class heterosexual white male... I still very much AM uncomfortable when dealing with police. I AM uncomfortable walking down a street alone at night (even in my own neighborhood). I WOULD feel awkward and self-conscious kissing my spouse in the middle of a street. I'm not sure if my mental wiring matches the majority of white people or not. But it definitely reflects a significant portion, if it's not flat-out "the norm". If any groups outside of heterosexual white males feel wronged because they don't feel such a level of comfort, then I imagine they will forever feel wronged. Because it doesn't describe MY comfort level, either. When people read stuff that's written this starkly, it is EXTREMELY easy to dismiss the concept of privilege. Because your description of white male life simply doesn't match our experience.

fsociety 9y ago

Not to underplay that growing up as, say, a black American in the projects comes with a whole host of horrific challenges, but this comment is incredibly sexist + racist. >> You don't feel uncomfortable when you see the police. I become incredibly uncomfortable around police, for many good reasons >> You don't feel uncomfortable walking down your street at night by yourself This as completely untrue. I've been followed several times by very shady people, and had one guy start charging me in the middle of the night from three blocks down - I jumped into a random taxi full of adrenaline. We were the only two people on the street as far as the eye could see. I've also had to redirect myself into crowded areas in the middle of daylight after shady characters were following me. Why is that? I live right beside a homeless camp and often these characters are shooting up on the street and then will yell at you about how they are going to "fucking murder" you. You'd probably be shocked to know that 95% of them are white males who were screwed by society. >> You don't feel uncomfortable going to your church I grew up going to church and always felt uncomfortable, it felt off to me. But I don't understand the point of this comment. I guess virtue signaling? >> You don't feel uncomfortable kissing your spouse in the street Damn right I don't. I can take you down streets where all sorts of minorities don't feel this way either. More virtue signaling? >> In my opinion, the discomfort you're feeling is nothing compared to the others I described. So get used to it. We do the right thing because it's right, not because it's easy. This is virtue signaling at its prime.

eeZah7Ux 9y ago
> I live right beside a homeless camp [...] You'd probably be shocked to know that 95% of them are white males There's a number of very vocal anti-racist or anti-sexist that seem to ignore or downplay discrimination based on class, employability and mental health. This can be very divisive.