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I worked with an Indian guy for a few years. He said that in India it is extremely unusual for a person to not follow an extremely rigid career track. It's th

I worked with an Indian guy for a few years. He said that in India it is extremely unusual for a person to not follow an extremely rigid career track. It's the legacy of the cast system pigeonholing people into various professions. In the caste system, your identity very narrowly dictates your job. In the west, job and identity are far more distinct.

prototype56 16y ago
This has nothing to do with caste system. India doesn't have the social safety net like the west, so people tend to be more conservative, for example if you get injured at work , you are screwed for rest of your life , no disability benefits like in the west . Believe it or not I went half my life without knowing what my caste is, no one cares about caste at least in the cities .
- talonx 16y ago
  >> No one cares about caste at least in the cities True to some extent, but most Indians remain conservative, cities or villages.
- sree_nair 16y ago
  >> "no one cares about caste at least in the cities" I find this to be reasonably close, till it comes to marriage. Very few families wholeheartedly agree for an Inter caste marriage.
GBond 16y ago
What always fascinates me is that this rigid track extends beyond careers and to the family life. According to my Indian colleagues, the social structure sets expectation on the type of wife, age you are married, age you start having kids.
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- awa 16y ago
  I don't have a better response than saying BullSH!T. Ask your friend to peek out and look at the city dwellers, there's no set age for one to get married though parents are heavily involved in the process, there's social pressure and most people get married in their 20's. Ofcourse these are the norms, within the handful of people I know the exception rate would be 20-30% which is high enough not to take all the social structure/expectation stuff too seriously
  - GeneralMaximus 16y ago
    Oh come on. I know several people in their late twenties being pressured into marriage by their families. Why? Because, according to their families, if they don't marry right now they'll never find a husband/wife for themselves and spend their lives childless. Or something.
    - awa 16y ago
      I said there's social pressure... but frankly isn't this the same even in the US, don't mom nag their daughters to find the right guy when they are of the "right" age here.
- shriphani 16y ago
  I would say this is true to a large extent. Our family knew an Indian who wanted to marry his Japanese girlfriend. The parents behaved like the biggest <censored> on the planet, even harassing the couple and taking the guy around to meet other women (who they thought were more appropriate for their son). Needless to say, that family went through quite a rough patch. But this is true of Indian parents. On one hand you have the new, more educated variety of parents who allow the kid to charter his/her own life. Then you have the weirdos who are completely out of touch with the world and feel that they know everything (no literally, from deciding their kids' majors in college to deciding where the kid should build his/her home). Right now there are more weirdos in India than the sane ones.
statictype 16y ago
It's interesting how almost every aspect of life in India is eventually spun and attributed to the caste system - kind of like Godwin's law. I think the reason for a rigid career path is simply that economical safety is generally encouraged over risk taking. Possibly because people value having a stable family over becoming successful by other means (not saying you can't have both)
- plinkplonk 16y ago
  "It's interesting how almost every aspect of life in India is eventually spun and attributed to the caste system - kind of like Godwin's law." Yes. Usually by people who have no direct experience of India. But then many people in India with no direct experience of America believe it is an immoral nihilistic society of "uncultured" pleasure seeking barbarians (rich too ;-)) .
  - ahk 16y ago
    > it is an immoral nihilistic society of "uncultured" pleasure seeking barbarians (rich too ;-)) . You're saying its not? Well, the barbarian part is hyperbole but the rest rings true.
    - plinkplonk 16y ago
      " >> it is an immoral nihilistic society of "uncultured" pleasure seeking barbarians >You're saying its not?" yes I am. Or more precisely the point was that America is no more an immoral nihilistic society than India is. To clarify even more, I am saying that the Indian assumption of "moral superiority" to America (something you'll hear if you hang around Non Resident Indian circles) is total rubbish. Most Indians in America clump defensively with "their own kind" and know next to nothing of American history or culture and have few real friends (not acquaintances) among Americans. I have lived in the USA and it is a great place. These days I live in India and (surprise, surprise) it is a great place too. America and India are very different from each other - what would you expect? India and America are almost exactly half the world apart- but there is really no "moral" superiority for one over the other. People are the same everywhere. There are just as many (by ratio) cultured people and uncouth ones, good people and bad people, bright people and fools in India as in America. People who say and believe such things are (imo) close minded idiots reacting stupidly to culture shock.
train_robber 16y ago
I really don't think caste plays that much of a role (in day to day Indian corporate life) as it is made out to be. Past 5 years working in this industry, I have never been asked about my caste or been discriminated against because of it. It seems the non-Indian is more obsessed with caste than Indians, nowadays.
ahk 16y ago
> extremely unusual for a person to not follow an extremely rigid career track This is due to a herd mentality and blinkered vision. Not the caste system.

prototype56 16y ago

This has nothing to do with caste system. India doesn't have the social safety net like the west, so people tend to be more conservative, for example if you get injured at work , you are screwed for rest of your life , no disability benefits like in the west . Believe it or not I went half my life without knowing what my caste is, no one cares about caste at least in the cities .

talonx 16y ago
>> No one cares about caste at least in the cities True to some extent, but most Indians remain conservative, cities or villages.
sree_nair 16y ago
>> "no one cares about caste at least in the cities" I find this to be reasonably close, till it comes to marriage. Very few families wholeheartedly agree for an Inter caste marriage.

GBond 16y ago

What always fascinates me is that this rigid track extends beyond careers and to the family life. According to my Indian colleagues, the social structure sets expectation on the type of wife, age you are married, age you start having kids.

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awa 16y ago
I don't have a better response than saying BullSH!T. Ask your friend to peek out and look at the city dwellers, there's no set age for one to get married though parents are heavily involved in the process, there's social pressure and most people get married in their 20's. Ofcourse these are the norms, within the handful of people I know the exception rate would be 20-30% which is high enough not to take all the social structure/expectation stuff too seriously
- GeneralMaximus 16y ago
  Oh come on. I know several people in their late twenties being pressured into marriage by their families. Why? Because, according to their families, if they don't marry right now they'll never find a husband/wife for themselves and spend their lives childless. Or something.
  - awa 16y ago
    I said there's social pressure... but frankly isn't this the same even in the US, don't mom nag their daughters to find the right guy when they are of the "right" age here.
shriphani 16y ago
I would say this is true to a large extent. Our family knew an Indian who wanted to marry his Japanese girlfriend. The parents behaved like the biggest <censored> on the planet, even harassing the couple and taking the guy around to meet other women (who they thought were more appropriate for their son). Needless to say, that family went through quite a rough patch. But this is true of Indian parents. On one hand you have the new, more educated variety of parents who allow the kid to charter his/her own life. Then you have the weirdos who are completely out of touch with the world and feel that they know everything (no literally, from deciding their kids' majors in college to deciding where the kid should build his/her home). Right now there are more weirdos in India than the sane ones.

statictype 16y ago

It's interesting how almost every aspect of life in India is eventually spun and attributed to the caste system - kind of like Godwin's law. I think the reason for a rigid career path is simply that economical safety is generally encouraged over risk taking. Possibly because people value having a stable family over becoming successful by other means (not saying you can't have both)

plinkplonk 16y ago
"It's interesting how almost every aspect of life in India is eventually spun and attributed to the caste system - kind of like Godwin's law." Yes. Usually by people who have no direct experience of India. But then many people in India with no direct experience of America believe it is an immoral nihilistic society of "uncultured" pleasure seeking barbarians (rich too ;-)) .
- ahk 16y ago
  > it is an immoral nihilistic society of "uncultured" pleasure seeking barbarians (rich too ;-)) . You're saying its not? Well, the barbarian part is hyperbole but the rest rings true.
  - plinkplonk 16y ago
    " >> it is an immoral nihilistic society of "uncultured" pleasure seeking barbarians >You're saying its not?" yes I am. Or more precisely the point was that America is no more an immoral nihilistic society than India is. To clarify even more, I am saying that the Indian assumption of "moral superiority" to America (something you'll hear if you hang around Non Resident Indian circles) is total rubbish. Most Indians in America clump defensively with "their own kind" and know next to nothing of American history or culture and have few real friends (not acquaintances) among Americans. I have lived in the USA and it is a great place. These days I live in India and (surprise, surprise) it is a great place too. America and India are very different from each other - what would you expect? India and America are almost exactly half the world apart- but there is really no "moral" superiority for one over the other. People are the same everywhere. There are just as many (by ratio) cultured people and uncouth ones, good people and bad people, bright people and fools in India as in America. People who say and believe such things are (imo) close minded idiots reacting stupidly to culture shock.

train_robber 16y ago

I really don't think caste plays that much of a role (in day to day Indian corporate life) as it is made out to be. Past 5 years working in this industry, I have never been asked about my caste or been discriminated against because of it. It seems the non-Indian is more obsessed with caste than Indians, nowadays.

ahk 16y ago

> extremely unusual for a person to not follow an extremely rigid career track This is due to a herd mentality and blinkered vision. Not the caste system.