> personal relations are just another kind of task which is apt to make the people being related to feel devalued because they're not important enough to be giv

> personal relations are just another kind of task which is apt to make the people being related to feel devalued because they're not important enough to be given space in someone's day-to-day consciousness. You seem to indicate that this devaluation is a sort of false accusation to which we should not make ourselves vulnerable. Yet, that subordinate clause rings true to me as an independent statement. Why should I let just any person (particularly family; none of mine know CS) occupy any nontrivial amount of space in my day-to-day consciousness; when such space could instead be used by something useful?