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There's no point in blowing sunshine and rainbows up people's asses. If somebody has a bad idea, you're probably doing them a disservice by not making your crit
by Aaronontheweb 16y ago
There's no point in blowing sunshine and rainbows up people's asses. If somebody has a bad idea, you're probably doing them a disservice by not making your criticisms of it indisputably clear.
That being said, criticism does not have to be combative and destructive - you can criticize someone's work, behaviors, or ideas without leaving them feeling lousy and resentful about it.
One of the most amazing things I've seen some of the people who've managed me do is give critical feedback without making me feel like I need to go on the defensive at all. They make criticism feel like a cooperative growth exercise, and that's really the best way to do it if you are finesseful enough to pull it off.
- frossie 16y agoyou can criticize someone's work, behaviors, or ideas without leaving them feeling lousy and resentful about it Exactly. It's not a choice between being a jerk and handing out free passes. You can be very critical while also approaching the criticism from a "I am doing this to help you explore the issue" perspective rather than "I am doing this because I am smart and you are stupid"
- nollidge 16y ago"Hey, maybe you and I could sit down later and brainstorm some good words we could use that are maybe a bit more formal than 'finesseful'. I mean, I actually think it's pretty clever, but there's probably some readers who might get turned off by it." Like that?
- Aaronontheweb 16y agoYeah, I'd say you've got the right idea. It's just putting criticism in a way that feels cooperative rather than "me vs. you," which you did.