It's unfortunate that this guy polluted the memesphere with this. The research into the lifelong benefits of children having access to secure attachment figures

It's unfortunate that this guy polluted the memesphere with this. The research into the lifelong benefits of children having access to secure attachment figures is mindblowing -- would have been great if he got passionate about approaches that actually have big impacts. You can build "self-esteem" from a variety of things, the most sustainable and healthy of which is from a deep sense that you can handle whatever emotions come up in your system and by extension, whatever life throws at you. Building "self-esteem" on the fact that you accomplished something -- say, won a tournament or built a company and not on the experience of not abandoning yourself along the way is a recipe for unfulfillment and a string of other ills. Healthy self-esteem is not built by giving everyone a trophy or protecting them from their own emotions but rather, helping children learn that they are accepted no matter what emotions they are having and thus learn to accept themselves no matter the emotional experience they are having. As a former World Games Invitee, I can tell you that losing in competition is painful. For me, often debilitatingly so. And it wasn't until I was able to explore the roots of that pain response that I could heal old traumas from my childhood of my father giving us the silent treatment for days at a time after losing as a high school football coach and the unhealthy relationship he had with performance coming from farther upstream in our family system. Our culture has created a false dichotomy of "positive and negative" emotions where we avoid conflicts, numb out with drugs, sex, TV, accomplishment, religion, food, conflict, drama, criticism and more. Our nervous systems don't feel safe processing anger, sadness, despair, and grief and so we turn to Psychiatry to suppress the symptoms vs. developing the capacity to be with our entire range of emotion and present experience.