This word "Bro" is banded around a lot without a clear definition. I've taken it to mean some sort of combination of sports-team-like camaraderie, aggressive in

This word "Bro" is banded around a lot without a clear definition. I've taken it to mean some sort of combination of sports-team-like camaraderie, aggressive in-group socialization and ingrained misogyny. In the case of tech, this couldn't be further from the truth. The vast majority of programmers are introverted, quiet and socially awkward. I have a theory that part of the contention about the skewed gender ratios in tech is due to Millenial female entitlement. Imagine if your entire adult life you'd been pandered to at every step: 1) If you are remotely attractive, men will bend over backwards to ask you out on dates or be friends, the stories I hear from female friends are absolutely amazing - the insanely extreme lengths of tolerance men will go to. On a social level, you can be flakey, lacking in personality and never initiate anything and yet there'll always be some sexually-desperate guy trying to win you over. Sure, its not genuine interest, but its constantly there. I've actually tried this before, creating the most boring possible profile on online dating sites, to see what will happen. Within minutes, decent-quality men send you reams upon reams of sweet messages ("Oh you're from the midwest too? Golly I miss it there" etc). You get endless validation without any effort. 2) In education, news and job-hunting there are endless women's groups, women's incubators, women-only nights here, free entry in places for being female. You're winning from stage 1. You can breeze into large companies because they're so desperate to fix that embarrassing gender skew. All of this goes to your head until you finally join that coveted startup, or finally take those gender-blind exams and actually have to produce the goods. No one is giving you a leg up any more and suddenly you realize that things are really hard. I'd be upset too.