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What do you mean? Some girls tried to play you and you responded (correctly) by cutting them off. What does this have to do with infatuation?
by loewenskind 16y ago
What do you mean? Some girls tried to play you and you responded (correctly) by cutting them off. What does this have to do with infatuation?
- AndyKelley 16y agoI'm suggesting that the reason they dumped me was that they felt the companionship love but not limerance. I guess I'm simply complaining that they need to feel limerance for it to be successful in their minds.
- ericd 16y agoYeah, girls are probably even more programmed with this idea than I am. I gather from your comment that it's not a requirement for you?
- AndyKelley 16y agoIt is to some extent, but probably less than usual. I'm not really in a position to give advice, as my longest relationship was less than 3 months long.
- loewenskind 16y agoAh, now I get it. Yes, every American girl I ever dated seemed to have this problem. Limerance is just a chemical thing so it can be hacked. Being charming but extremely mysterious seems to trigger it. I'm talking like "at the end of the first date she doesn't know my last name" kind of mysterious. Every question she asks is dodged, redirected or answered with an obvious joke. Of course I wasn't interested in living this way so I married a European. :)
- AndyKelley 16y agoSounds like you've been listening to David Deangelo.
- loewenskind 16y agoNever heard of him before now. It did first hear the theory from some internet source, but from what I just read about Deangelo it's sounds a little different. In any case, every time I tried it it seemed to work and every time I deviated the relationship ended. Hardly scientific proof but the source I read had spent years surveying women to arrive at his conclusions.