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Beware the opportunity cost of having kids. I love my kids... but I've never had the rosy "they make my life complete" vibe that a lot of other people talk abo
by Sukotto 16y ago
Beware the opportunity cost of having kids.
I love my kids... but I've never had the rosy "they make my life complete" vibe that a lot of other people talk about.
Maybe there's something wrong with me?
Kids are a tremendous time and money sink. Nightly storytime, getting down on the floor to play with them, encouraging them as they experiment with art/music/dancing/etc, taking them to the playground/pool/skating/etc every weekend... those hours used to be for programming, learning, video games, dating, movies, friends, "alone time", and everything else I gave up on or cut WAY back on in order to make space in my life for my kids.
Looking back on my life, I think I would do it again... so I guess there's some benefit to it all. But damn if I can see it or articulate it.
(They're 5, 3, and 1month)
- torpor 16y agoGetting down on the ground and playing with your kids > dating/video games/movies. If not, you're doing it wrong.
- seanc 16y agoRight now you're in the trenches. Once your youngest is out of diapers you start climbing out of the trenches and your life gets some more balance. But all this bonding time you're putting in now will pay off. Hang in there.
- mdh 16y agoMy grandmother's catchphrase to all of her children and grandchildren when they're struggling with their little ones is "You're enjoying this. You really are. You just won't realise it for another 20 years".