I have understood the difference between love and limerence for a while now, but never quite grasped the idea that we need to enjoy the real person instead of o

I have understood the difference between love and limerence for a while now, but never quite grasped the idea that we need to enjoy the real person instead of our own fantastical vision of who they are. My understanding of the distinction between forms of love comes from examining the four Greek words for love, where philia is compassionate love and eros is limerence, but this hadn't led to enough insight for me to see past the "angel" form and become comfortable with the real person. As a high schooler and having only experienced limerence once, I think that if I can figure out the distinction then most of my peers can too, but that's not to say that we don't still frequently fall in love with a vision or fervently believe that this love can last forever.