> Finding purpose and meaning in your suffering is what makes it bearable. Yeah, I'd say we don't forget the negative stuff, but instead attribute meaning and

> Finding purpose and meaning in your suffering is what makes it bearable. Yeah, I'd say we don't forget the negative stuff, but instead attribute meaning and purpose to it. You even see this in the example they use to explain how we forget the negative. I think their socioemotional selectivity theory is really just a restructuring of the negative into something positive; a sort of defense mechanism we learn to use as we get older in life. The mechanism isn't a simple "forgive and forget"; we wouldn't gain nearly as much from that.