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I do understand where you're coming from, but I lived in it for part of my childhood too. It was truly awful in many ways and full of suffering. But my point is
by Jemmeh 9y ago
I do understand where you're coming from, but I lived in it for part of my childhood too. It was truly awful in many ways and full of suffering. But my point is that I knew those people directly. I remember the lady who made the effort to walk to the beach and watch the sunrise before she worked on the farm(not far but still). I remember my grandma who despite being rather bitter in many ways, loved her dogs dearly. I remember eating the same fish and rice for days on end with people who still managed to laugh and joke. Life was awful in many ways, but they could still find things to be grateful and happy for. My point is that they could still manage the feeling of gratitude and joy, not that life was peachy. There's people that act like you can never ever be happy if any one bad thing ever happens to you.
Don't get me wrong, there were people who were just sad all the time too, and understandably so. But life there was crappy and yet there were still people trying to make the best of the cards that were dealt to them. Like you said peoples minds are similar everywhere, the ability to find happiness in small things can be found everywhere too.
- jolux 9y ago>There's people here in the US that act like you can never ever be happy if any one bad thing ever happens to you. It's not direct but this line of reasoning is getting pretty close to relative privation. Peoples' suffering in the US isn't necessarily less valid because they generally have the basics covered (though not universally), and it sounds a little bit like invalidating their pain to say that you're not allowed to be unhappy if "one bad thing happens to you." Additionally the original post is wrong about money, it does tend to make people happier up until $100k, where it starts plateauing.
- Jemmeh 9y agoI say US simply because that is where I live and what I see daily, I'm sure the idea of "can never be happy after one thing" can happen anywhere and to anyone. I worded that poorly, sorry. I took that out of my post. I'm not trying to invalidate anyone's pain. I'm saying it's a mindset thing to think you can never ever be happy or be grateful because bad things have happened/are happening. I can be grateful for something while simultaneously experiencing pain. I'm grateful for the good meal I had for lunch, but I also sprained my ankle on the way back. One thing does not invalidate the other. Agree with you about the money thing, I've seen a few studies saying that very thing.
- jolux 9y agoYeah I think that's accurate. Pretty close to Stoicism, you know.