This might sound strange, considering the opening article, but have you considered Japan? Despite what rumours online may say, getting a work visa is not hard.

This might sound strange, considering the opening article, but have you considered Japan? Despite what rumours online may say, getting a work visa is not hard. You only need to have a university and a company willing to employ you and then you're good to go. The salaries may not be as high as Silicon Valley or London, but it's very possible to have a good quality of life. The path to permanent residency is clear (if a little long). There's also no military service to speak of. The majority support pacifism, which seems to align with your values. If you understand Chinese writing then Japanese is not too bad to pick up.