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I'll be blunt. It reads like you love your misery. You have an easy solution: get some work in the UK. If your girlfriend loves you she'll manage to follow you

by arkh 9y ago

I'll be blunt. It reads like you love your misery. You have an easy solution: get some work in the UK. If your girlfriend loves you she'll manage to follow you. If not I guess she's not really marriage material.

peterburkimsher 9y ago
"not really marriage material" should not be the decision of a government. She's not super rich, and she works in fashion design. That's not on a skill-shortage list. My salary isn't super high. I worked in the UK before, as an unpaid missionary. I quit because of serious cultural differences (I wasn't allowed to cook dinner for a female friend - not romantic - in my free time). I studied there in university, and was shocked at how racist people were towards immigrants. They didn't realise that I've always been an immigrant. Just because I look British should force me to live in that country. The British government won't ever let me upgrade my citizenship to let children born overseas become British, no matter how long I live there. That country rejected me, so I'm trying to find another place where I belong. Many people have problems moving to the UK, some of whom write about it here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/139807999382936/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/139807999382936/
- arkh 9y ago
  I take it you are the kind of people who want others to pat you on the back while you complain but don't care about solutions. Why do you want to live and adhere to the customs of your current country? Do you really need to get married? If the UK is a problem what would be the problem with forfeiting your UK citizenship to acquire the one of you future wife? There is a moment when you have to commit to a choice and stop living "le cul entre deux chaises" (the ass between two chairs).
- dx034 9y ago
  > I wasn't allowed to cook dinner for a female friend - not romantic - in my free time Who said that you aren't allowed to cook dinner for someone in the UK? Maybe your friend didn't want that but it's certainly not typical for the UK.
watwut 9y ago
Through, if you change the country without partner and basically expect her/him to follow without caring about her/his options/preferences where to go, then you are definitely not a marriage material.

by arkh 9y ago

peterburkimsher 9y ago

"not really marriage material" should not be the decision of a government. She's not super rich, and she works in fashion design. That's not on a skill-shortage list. My salary isn't super high. I worked in the UK before, as an unpaid missionary. I quit because of serious cultural differences (I wasn't allowed to cook dinner for a female friend - not romantic - in my free time). I studied there in university, and was shocked at how racist people were towards immigrants. They didn't realise that I've always been an immigrant. Just because I look British should force me to live in that country. The British government won't ever let me upgrade my citizenship to let children born overseas become British, no matter how long I live there. That country rejected me, so I'm trying to find another place where I belong. Many people have problems moving to the UK, some of whom write about it here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/139807999382936/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/139807999382936/

arkh 9y ago
I take it you are the kind of people who want others to pat you on the back while you complain but don't care about solutions. Why do you want to live and adhere to the customs of your current country? Do you really need to get married? If the UK is a problem what would be the problem with forfeiting your UK citizenship to acquire the one of you future wife? There is a moment when you have to commit to a choice and stop living "le cul entre deux chaises" (the ass between two chairs).
dx034 9y ago
> I wasn't allowed to cook dinner for a female friend - not romantic - in my free time Who said that you aren't allowed to cook dinner for someone in the UK? Maybe your friend didn't want that but it's certainly not typical for the UK.

watwut 9y ago

Through, if you change the country without partner and basically expect her/him to follow without caring about her/his options/preferences where to go, then you are definitely not a marriage material.