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The cure for limerance is simple: time. Namely, 2 to 3 years.

• cousin_it 16y ago
  I'd go further and say that the cure is psychological time, i.e. having more intense experiences per hour. You have to isolate yourself completely from the object of your infatuation and then try to have very intense days, like those you had in childhood or boot camp. Do new stuff, win battles, lose battles, have sex with a lot of people. From my experience, this will cure your infatuation way faster than sitting in a room. If all parts of your mind are constantly occupied with other stuff, you go very quickly from "can't stop thinking about him/her" to "wow, a full hour without unhappy thoughts and I feel okay", to a day clean, then a week...
  • georgieporgie 16y ago
    > I'd go further and say that the cure is psychological time, i.e. having more intense experiences per hour. If I understand you correctly, you're basically saying what is more bluntly phrased, "get a life," or "get out more," in which case I entirely agree with you. As someone who once lost an object of limerant obsession, I can say the worst thing you can do is stay in the same place, doing the same thing. I noticed when traveling last year, I bumped into a number of freshly broken-up people. They are clearly wiser than I was.