4 ms·

If you're not pretending to explain why all cheating occurs, and we're talking about all cheating based on the article, it really just makes you sound like you

If you're not pretending to explain why all cheating occurs, and we're talking about all cheating based on the article, it really just makes you sound like you have a bone to pick with women. When confronted with the statistics that someone else is seeing more MEN cheat, even with this supposed "situation" you describe, you don't react by thinking "Hmm maybe my anecdotal idea is wrong" but by explaining how it's still relevant. You seem strongly biased here.

b0rsuk 9y ago
You are welcome to spin strawman arguments like the "statistics" above that men cheat as much or more as women. But don't expect me trying to prove what wasn't my point in the first place. That's misrepresenting my original post and I won't fall for that. And I'm not even saying "my anecdotal idea is wrong", because it is not. I've seen it happen that way, it doesn't matter if scale is smaller or larger. I just highlighted another motivation / mechanic of cheating. And it happens the other way too, with men manipulating women. In my first job (not programming) there was a handsome guy pretty adept at this. He would say things like "(Stretching) It would be so nice if someone opened the window." --- 3 girls rush to open the window before they realize they're being manipulated. I wanted to add to the full picture of why people cheat. But I'll show you how my original post in this thread can be generalized: Some people cheat not because of peer pressure, time constraints, inability to understand, "because everyone does", collaborative ethos among computer programmers... but because other people spoil them, and offer to "help" them in exchange for perceived favors. It doesn't even have to be a sexual attraction thing, it can be "helping this guy because his father owns half the town". If you learn you have some perk that really makes other want do favors for you, you're tempted to abuse it more. Sometimes being good at flattery is enough! Another explanation of this phenomenon is: people are more likely to cheat if opportunities are very easily available. But that facet is already mentioned in the article.

b0rsuk 9y ago

You are welcome to spin strawman arguments like the "statistics" above that men cheat as much or more as women. But don't expect me trying to prove what wasn't my point in the first place. That's misrepresenting my original post and I won't fall for that. And I'm not even saying "my anecdotal idea is wrong", because it is not. I've seen it happen that way, it doesn't matter if scale is smaller or larger. I just highlighted another motivation / mechanic of cheating. And it happens the other way too, with men manipulating women. In my first job (not programming) there was a handsome guy pretty adept at this. He would say things like "(Stretching) It would be so nice if someone opened the window." --- 3 girls rush to open the window before they realize they're being manipulated. I wanted to add to the full picture of why people cheat. But I'll show you how my original post in this thread can be generalized: Some people cheat not because of peer pressure, time constraints, inability to understand, "because everyone does", collaborative ethos among computer programmers... but because other people spoil them, and offer to "help" them in exchange for perceived favors. It doesn't even have to be a sexual attraction thing, it can be "helping this guy because his father owns half the town". If you learn you have some perk that really makes other want do favors for you, you're tempted to abuse it more. Sometimes being good at flattery is enough! Another explanation of this phenomenon is: people are more likely to cheat if opportunities are very easily available. But that facet is already mentioned in the article.