For me, family is easy. It is our custom to charge each other full rates, period. Saves a lot of bad feelings. For friends, I usually request some kind of equi

For me, family is easy. It is our custom to charge each other full rates, period. Saves a lot of bad feelings. For friends, I usually request some kind of equivalent work for trade, or full rates. For example, I'll clean up your viruses if you'll mow my lawn (or paint a room, give the gf a manicure, whatever). I suspect it would work for family, too, if I needed it to.