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Seek professional help. You've identified a symptom, now the best thing you can do is get the right person to help you explore the cause and fix it. Whether tha

by relyio 9y ago

Seek professional help. You've identified a symptom, now the best thing you can do is get the right person to help you explore the cause and fix it. Whether that is a personal coach, or a licenced psychiatrist, I leave at your discretion. Just do it, it's a google search away from you.

charlesism 9y ago
He says the problem is too much introspection. Unless he's suicidal, booking time every week to engage in further introspection sounds like a bad idea. If I were the OP, I would tackle the problem by scheduling more time every week being active, and being social. Fortunately, it sounds like he has plenty of opportunities to do so, so it's just a matter of consciously spending less time alone. It's difficult to have a “dark night of the soul” while you're chatting with somebody in a steakhouse, or tossing a frisbee around.
- DanBC 9y ago
  Modern evidence based therapies such as CBT are a way to avoid problematic repetitive thinking and too much introspection, and are a way to focus concentration on more positive thinking. Current NHS figures suggest about 60% success rate, and that's on a bare-knuckle minimum provision model.
  - charlesism 9y ago
    Cheers. Just read the Wikipedia article on CBT, and it seems much more reasonable than what I assumed therapy would be like.
freelode 9y ago
I second this advice. 'Over thinking' and 'self destruction' sound like symptoms of depression/anxiety. If that is the case, you will eventually have to seek out a professional for diagnosis and treatment. Importantly, you can't rule out mental health issues without consulting a professional, especially when these problematic patterns of behaviour are present in so many areas of your life. If you do have a mental health issue then it's likely that you won't be able to fix the issues you're experiencing without first treating it, which is why consulting a professional is such an important step. Independently of the existence of possible mental health issues, a psychologist will be able to equip you with tools (cbt etc.) to facilitate the changes that you want to make, and support you through them. As a mid 20's white-male who has experienced a somewhat similar situation, I wish that I had sought out professional help sooner. If I had, repairing the damage caused by un-diagnosed major depressive disorder and social anxiety would have been a much easier task.

by relyio 9y ago

charlesism 9y ago

He says the problem is too much introspection. Unless he's suicidal, booking time every week to engage in further introspection sounds like a bad idea. If I were the OP, I would tackle the problem by scheduling more time every week being active, and being social. Fortunately, it sounds like he has plenty of opportunities to do so, so it's just a matter of consciously spending less time alone. It's difficult to have a “dark night of the soul” while you're chatting with somebody in a steakhouse, or tossing a frisbee around.

DanBC 9y ago
Modern evidence based therapies such as CBT are a way to avoid problematic repetitive thinking and too much introspection, and are a way to focus concentration on more positive thinking. Current NHS figures suggest about 60% success rate, and that's on a bare-knuckle minimum provision model.
- charlesism 9y ago
  Cheers. Just read the Wikipedia article on CBT, and it seems much more reasonable than what I assumed therapy would be like.

freelode 9y ago

I second this advice. 'Over thinking' and 'self destruction' sound like symptoms of depression/anxiety. If that is the case, you will eventually have to seek out a professional for diagnosis and treatment. Importantly, you can't rule out mental health issues without consulting a professional, especially when these problematic patterns of behaviour are present in so many areas of your life. If you do have a mental health issue then it's likely that you won't be able to fix the issues you're experiencing without first treating it, which is why consulting a professional is such an important step. Independently of the existence of possible mental health issues, a psychologist will be able to equip you with tools (cbt etc.) to facilitate the changes that you want to make, and support you through them. As a mid 20's white-male who has experienced a somewhat similar situation, I wish that I had sought out professional help sooner. If I had, repairing the damage caused by un-diagnosed major depressive disorder and social anxiety would have been a much easier task.