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Don't talk to your wife about it, you'll show her a weakness, she will start subconsciously resent you, become colder and distant and your stress will double. S
by bitL 9y ago
Don't talk to your wife about it, you'll show her a weakness, she will start subconsciously resent you, become colder and distant and your stress will double. She has you as her rock, she doesn't want a weak man to rely on.
Start instead some sport, take care of your body (try sauna + cold baths together), eat brain-boosting supplements, kick out sugar/flour-based food for a month, switch your phone off for 4 hours during work day and tell everyone about your reachability, start learning something on a side which makes you happy. You have a happiness deficit; do something you always wanted to do though don't overdo it, and allow yourself to be a bit happy for no reason ;-)
- idlewords 9y agoStrong men don't take relationship advice from HN, though... paradox!
- soft_dev_person 9y agoTo retain some faith in humanity I will read this as sarcasm.
- bitL 9y agoI wish the world was as I was told when I was a kid and not the way it is. Some of the main reasons (statistically) why wives divorce their husbands in the US are unemployment of husband and higher earnings of wife. This should tell you there is some biological programming that is different between genders regardless of what is currently popular in soft-science academia.
- dang 9y agoYou can't know any of that about a person you've never met, which makes this comment generic. Generic plus inflammatory equals trolling. Please don't post like that here. We detached this subthread from https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14420786 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14420786 and marked it off-topic.
- jwdunne 9y agoThat's the most ridiculous thing that I've ever heard about marriage. In a solid, loving, marriage, your wife will resent you for not being open and honest. She's meant to be your best friend. She wants to be there for you as much as you are for her. My Mrs has cried before now because I've not let her in on my hard times, my pain. She was devastated to know what I was going through alone. She assumed I'd closed up because I didn't care, I didn't love her anymore. Yeah take the latter advice but if you want a happy life don't take the former. This will not lead to a happy marriage, which is, if good, the biggest source of happiness you can get.
- yuhong 9y agoThat being said, I do dislike this having to be posted anonymously.
- pheuberger 9y agoWhat an awful recommendation. Thank god the world isn't as stereotypical as you paint it where women need a strong man. @OP Your wife is there to support you and vice versa. Talk to her. She might be able to give you the emotional support you need. Certainly better than people on the internets.