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It may have been crude, but his example isn't wrong. On the contrary is it not the case that sexual activity is recommended by therapists for stress relief? Is

It may have been crude, but his example isn't wrong. On the contrary is it not the case that sexual activity is recommended by therapists for stress relief? Is he really implicating anything here or is this fitting a predetermined narrative you've conjured?

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openasocket 9y ago
> is it not the case that sexual activity is recommended by therapists for stress relief? No. Not it is not the case. No therapist would suggest sex for stress relief. While there is some evidence suggesting regular sex can reduce stress, it's on the same order of magnitude as exercise, getting enough sleep, eating right, etc. Using sex with your partner as some sort of stress release activity is really not healthy for the relationship.
- justinclift 9y ago
  > Using sex with your partner as some sort of stress release activity is really not healthy for the relationship. That sounds really strange to me. Is that from a religious viewpoint of sex? eg "sex is a sin" type of thing?
  - openasocket 9y ago
    The issue is when it is a prescribed antidote to treat stress. When sex becomes an obligation to your partner it can create tension in the relationship.
    - xor1 9y ago
      >When sex becomes an obligation to your partner In a healthy relationship where neither partner is asexual, both partners should regularly want to have sex with each other, what is this nonsense about "obligation"?
- late2part 9y ago
  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/paintracking/201111/the-healing-powers-sex https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/paintracking/201111/the... https://drstanhyman.com/sex-therapy/ https://drstanhyman.com/sex-therapy/ https://www.beckinstitute.org/detail/sexual-dysfunctions/ https://www.beckinstitute.org/detail/sexual-dysfunctions/ http://www.refinery29.com/health-benefits-of-sex http://www.refinery29.com/health-benefits-of-sex
  - openasocket 9y ago
    1. refers to chronic pain treatment, and has several caveats. It's also a blog post, not professional advice from a clinician, so also take it with a grain of salt. 2. isn't using sex as therapy, it's therapy for problems relating to sex. There is a link in there relating to stress management (https://drstanhyman.com/life-coaching-for-stress-management/ https://drstanhyman.com/life-coaching-for-stress-management/) but doesn't once bring up sex as a stress management technique. 3. Is just a list of sexual dysfunctions, nothing about stress or treating it with sex. 4. Is another blog post, mostly citing pop psychology books. But nowhere does it prescribe sex for psychological problems.
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babyrainbow 9y ago
The real sad thing here is that some people are seeing sex with their wives as a "favour", something like a one sided affair....
- ShabbosGoy 9y ago
  Come now. I'm sure everyone remembers their parents sleeping in different rooms after a certain amount of time. If one partner's libido decreases before the other's, it may very well be a favor for the partner whose libido has decreased. Nothing wrong with that, and if it's a healthy relationship, both partners will not mind doing favors for one another...
  - babyrainbow 9y ago
    Sure. But why should anyone assume that is the case here?

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openasocket 9y ago

> is it not the case that sexual activity is recommended by therapists for stress relief? No. Not it is not the case. No therapist would suggest sex for stress relief. While there is some evidence suggesting regular sex can reduce stress, it's on the same order of magnitude as exercise, getting enough sleep, eating right, etc. Using sex with your partner as some sort of stress release activity is really not healthy for the relationship.

justinclift 9y ago
> Using sex with your partner as some sort of stress release activity is really not healthy for the relationship. That sounds really strange to me. Is that from a religious viewpoint of sex? eg "sex is a sin" type of thing?
- openasocket 9y ago
  The issue is when it is a prescribed antidote to treat stress. When sex becomes an obligation to your partner it can create tension in the relationship.
  - xor1 9y ago
    >When sex becomes an obligation to your partner In a healthy relationship where neither partner is asexual, both partners should regularly want to have sex with each other, what is this nonsense about "obligation"?
late2part 9y ago
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/paintracking/201111/the-healing-powers-sex https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/paintracking/201111/the... https://drstanhyman.com/sex-therapy/ https://drstanhyman.com/sex-therapy/ https://www.beckinstitute.org/detail/sexual-dysfunctions/ https://www.beckinstitute.org/detail/sexual-dysfunctions/ http://www.refinery29.com/health-benefits-of-sex http://www.refinery29.com/health-benefits-of-sex
- openasocket 9y ago
  1. refers to chronic pain treatment, and has several caveats. It's also a blog post, not professional advice from a clinician, so also take it with a grain of salt. 2. isn't using sex as therapy, it's therapy for problems relating to sex. There is a link in there relating to stress management (https://drstanhyman.com/life-coaching-for-stress-management/ https://drstanhyman.com/life-coaching-for-stress-management/) but doesn't once bring up sex as a stress management technique. 3. Is just a list of sexual dysfunctions, nothing about stress or treating it with sex. 4. Is another blog post, mostly citing pop psychology books. But nowhere does it prescribe sex for psychological problems.

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babyrainbow 9y ago

The real sad thing here is that some people are seeing sex with their wives as a "favour", something like a one sided affair....

ShabbosGoy 9y ago
Come now. I'm sure everyone remembers their parents sleeping in different rooms after a certain amount of time. If one partner's libido decreases before the other's, it may very well be a favor for the partner whose libido has decreased. Nothing wrong with that, and if it's a healthy relationship, both partners will not mind doing favors for one another...
- babyrainbow 9y ago
  Sure. But why should anyone assume that is the case here?