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I agree, it's a similar effect for me. I like that my dress pants and dress shirts serve to separate work from home. I view my morning routine, with the specia
by camelNotation 9y ago
I agree, it's a similar effect for me. I like that my dress pants and dress shirts serve to separate work from home.
I view my morning routine, with the special clothes, special shoes, special bag, and even my "special" commuter car (that I don't drive on weekends) as a sort of liturgical practice. I wake up, I shower, I groom, I put the clothes on a certain way, I gather my things in the same order, I get one of only a handful of breakfast options, make coffee, and leave for work. I even kiss my wife and kids in the same order (youngest to oldest, oldest of course being my wife).
This seems boring and repetitive to a lot of people, but it's actually incredibly freeing for me. Because it is all so routine, I usually spend my mornings thinking about the book I was reading the night before, or the news, or some other topic. I don't have to pay attention to what I am doing because it just happens without "me" really being part of it. It allows me to focus on ideas that matter to me instead of menial activities.
For me, this liturgy would be interrupted without those special clothes and special shoes. I would likely find myself making choices and decisions I really don't have a desire to make.
- ccozan 9y agoIt feels very ... rigid. In contrast to this, my mornings are a total chaos: kids. They obey rules if they arr funny. So I have to be funny, which means I just can't be that rigid. So we just have fun every morning, which makes my work time also pleasant and light. An of course, very casual. EDIT: I did not said that the person is autistic. Just the way it feels. There is a fine distinction. Of course there is nothing wrong with a structured life and such a person is perfectly healthy. Just to be fair, changed the word.
- Godel_unicode 9y agoThat's a pretty offensive description. People can like structure without having a severe developmental disorder.
- ccozan 9y agoSorry, didn't wanted to sound like that. Just changed the work accordingly. There was no intention of offending anyone, so bear with me.
- wonderbread23 9y agoOk, sperg
- publicfig 9y agoAutistic is not an adjective to describe routine or odd quirks, but an actual condition.
- ccozan 9y agoThanks for pointing me this out, I have a circle of people who regularly use this adjective to describe this kind of strange, never changing, routine type of activity.
- wonderbread23 9y agoWhat about sperg, or spergy?
- gdubs 9y agoBased on your comments and edit, it sounds like you genuinely weren't trying to be offensive. What I'd say is that we're all driven by habit more than we realize. It sounds like the parent poster has cultivated a habit that's healthy and productive for them. They actually enjoy it and it brings a positive structure to their life. Someone who dresses down every day is also guided by a habit. It may be deliberate, or it may not be. I'm not being judgemental - I happen to mostly wear t shirts and jeans these days, though ones I really enjoy. Finding a habit that makes your life better can be freeing. It automates something you have to do every day anyway, and the alternative of making a choice every day to do something unique could actually be a negative - it burns up valuable mental resources that culminate in decision making fatigue, which can really mess with your willpower by the end of the day. In a sense we all rigidly follow habits, or a script. But mindfully shaping them can be a powerful tool.
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- santaclaus 9y ago> I even kiss my wife and kids in the same order (youngest to oldest, oldest of course being my wife). Meet George Jetson!
- sushisource 9y agoMy decisions consist of "This shirt is on top?" Done. "These pants are still not dirty from yesterday?" Done. I do like dressing up to go out, but all the ironing and caretaking involved... too much work for every day.