My experience is that the opposite is often true: quite a number of those who overcame <x> tend to have the least sympathy for people struggling with <x>. I've

My experience is that the opposite is often true: quite a number of those who overcame <x> tend to have the least sympathy for people struggling with <x>. I've met ex-poor people who attribute their success to simple 'trying harder' than other poor people. I've met socially successful people who attribute it to learning 'a few simple tricks' and 'getting out of the comfort zone'. I've met ex-depressed people proclaim that if only others would meditate and/or believe in themselves it would solve all their negative feelings. I've met gays who argued that if only these sexually-confused individuals would let themselves be themselves, and move somewhere more free if need be, their struggle would be over. I've met Christians who attribute their new-found wholesomeness to simple being more repentant than everyone else in church. In each of these cases, the conclusion was that 'these people', whether poor, socially anxious, depressed, gay or in existential crises, are just not trying hard enough (lazy). In fact, I'd go as far as claiming that, considering myself someone who has had a decent breadth and depth of experience with these groups, easily more than 50% of the ex-somethings I've met are more on the side of judging their ex-peers instead of supporting them. I'm sure there's fascinating research in this area. I catch myself doing similar things and while I have some theories I can't fully explain why I do it. Protecting/polishing my ego? Keeping some clean narrative and sense of progression in my head?