So the maintainer, who is already doing stuff to provide you with some code or library, has to go out of his way to accomodate you? If you can't be bothered to

So the maintainer, who is already doing stuff to provide you with some code or library, has to go out of his way to accomodate you? If you can't be bothered to send an e-mail or submit to a mailing list, why should he/she be bothered to deal with your preferences? He/she is delivering the value, not you.