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Your invitation wasn't to me, but I hope it's ok if I take you up on it. Here is a very personal gripe: some of the women in group A express their frustration b
by haberman 9y ago
Your invitation wasn't to me, but I hope it's ok if I take you up on it. Here is a very personal gripe: some of the women in group A express their frustration by shaming and accusing men beyond what seems justified. But this is often accompanied with the argument that men don't have standing to push back on any of these accusations or ridicule.
The worst example I know is this article that invalidates a vulnerable and personal story by reading it in the most uncharitable and mean-spirited way, such that no empathy with the man is possible.
http://www.rawstory.com/2014/12/mit-professor-explains-the-real-oppression-is-having-to-learn-to-talk-to-women/ http://www.rawstory.com/2014/12/mit-professor-explains-the-r...
Similar to the "code of blue" when it comes to police misconduct, no one seems willing to criticize fellow women when stuff like this comes out and say "that's uncalled for" or "that's not what feminism is about."
I won't tell my personal story here, but it has similarities to Scott's.
- Solarsail 9y agoWhile I do agree that the case highlighted shows a rather uncharitable reaction to said personal anecdote, I suspect your advice could be turned around itself in a number of circumstances. Live and let live. Somebody tells a personal story with a somewhat-incomplete perspective? Live and let live. Some stranger on the internet paints the sky as falling because of said anecdote being shared? Live and let live. Both acts remind me of the old 'someone's wrong on the internet' XKCD comic.
- haberman 9y agoI don't think you understand the power of group ridicule. There is a difference between someone being wrong somewhere (as in XKCD) and someone attacking things about your personhood, while making heady moral arguments that their attacks are justified and your defenses are not.