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I believe there is at least a partial influence from a culture of "men don't talk about their problems" that pervades the gender. Probably an unhealthy situati

I believe there is at least a partial influence from a culture of "men don't talk about their problems" that pervades the gender. Probably an unhealthy situation, but my understanding is that a man talking about his problems is seems as undesireable/unattractive/not-manly by both men and women. (This post is not meant to any claim of "which gender has it worse" or anything of that nature, as I find the whole "my suffering is worse than your suffering" line to be counterproductive)

slededit 9y ago
Men can talk about their smaller problems with one very specific caveat: they have to be sharing their plan to resolve it. For example someone feeling "sad" would be a weird conversation to have if it weren't a deep depression. However "I'm building a shed to keep my mind off things" is an acceptable way to share your feelings. The other exception is if you've both experience the same upsetting event together. I've found that men are OK with talking about more serious feelings directly, for example if someone close to you died. This would largely depend on your friends though.