Just please don't tear us down when all we're trying to to is claw our way up to your level. A little support (even purely verbal) goes a long way. Here's an h

Just please don't tear us down when all we're trying to to is claw our way up to your level. A little support (even purely verbal) goes a long way. Here's an honest question so I understand your perspective: what is an example of verbal support that someone could say to, e.g. you, that you believe you would appreciate in the moment and not interpret as patronizing or condescending? My personal experience (and that of others I know who fall into what you'd colloquially call "privileged" groups) is that it feels safer to not remark on an individual's race or gender at all unless you know them really well, even in a positive and supportive way, for fear of it backfiring and being interpreted as bigoted. Maybe you can't come up with an example because it's highly context specific, in which case that's fine, I'm just wondering if you have a comment on delivery in social contexts.