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> - Don't use Facebook's messaging or email. I'd love to not use FB's messaging, especially since they recently changed the email message notifications to say

> - Don't use Facebook's messaging or email. I'd love to not use FB's messaging, especially since they recently changed the email message notifications to say "you have a message. log in to see it" instead of giving a preview of the message like it used to. However, I can't figure out a way to keep a minimal FB account and not use their messaging. Some of my friends do have the vile Messenger app on their phones and default to using FB messages for communication. I've just not been able to ignore those, as a bunch of the time it's message of the form "hey, let's do X."

berdario 9y ago
My solution is: go through every chat that you had in the last 2 years, and "mute" it. That way you won't get the red dot notifying you about it when you log into Facebook, and you can blissfully ignore any message there. You might still want to check messages there every once in a while (every couple of weeks, maybe) If you have other contacts (advertised on your Facebook about page, even!) and you let your friends know to avoid contacting you on Facebook, I think they shouldn't expect you to be alert and quick to reply to their messages on such a platform
- em3rgent0rdr 9y ago
  here's an easier protip: use uBlock Origin, and completely hide the right-hand column.
  - OJFord 9y ago
    Presumably you mean uMatrix?
    - em3rgent0rdr 9y ago
      No. I'm talking about uBlock Origin, which has a tool (see the button with the little eyedrop icon) which you can use to click on elements of the screen to hide them and save that as a rule. I think this is a bit simpler than uMatrix's UI.
      - OJFord 9y ago
        Oh sorry, I completely misunderstood. I didn't realise you meant visual column - I thought you meant 'use X and in it disable everything in the right-hand column'; since uBlock Origin doesn't have a columnar UI, I assumed you meant uMatrix. :)
- rrix2 9y ago
  Your parent's explicit usecase is "sometimes people make ad-hoc plans with me through messenger", and ignoring those for weeks on end sort of defeats the purpose and encourages those folks to not make plans with them...
  - iak8god 9y ago
    That is the issue. I'd be more willing to try training my friends to contact me through other means except that, having recently moved to a new city where I knew no one, none of the people I currently spend time with IRL actually have much invested yet in being my friend, so tossing up hurdles seems unwise.

berdario 9y ago

My solution is: go through every chat that you had in the last 2 years, and "mute" it. That way you won't get the red dot notifying you about it when you log into Facebook, and you can blissfully ignore any message there. You might still want to check messages there every once in a while (every couple of weeks, maybe) If you have other contacts (advertised on your Facebook about page, even!) and you let your friends know to avoid contacting you on Facebook, I think they shouldn't expect you to be alert and quick to reply to their messages on such a platform

em3rgent0rdr 9y ago
here's an easier protip: use uBlock Origin, and completely hide the right-hand column.
- OJFord 9y ago
  Presumably you mean uMatrix?
  - em3rgent0rdr 9y ago
    No. I'm talking about uBlock Origin, which has a tool (see the button with the little eyedrop icon) which you can use to click on elements of the screen to hide them and save that as a rule. I think this is a bit simpler than uMatrix's UI.
    - OJFord 9y ago
      Oh sorry, I completely misunderstood. I didn't realise you meant visual column - I thought you meant 'use X and in it disable everything in the right-hand column'; since uBlock Origin doesn't have a columnar UI, I assumed you meant uMatrix. :)
rrix2 9y ago
Your parent's explicit usecase is "sometimes people make ad-hoc plans with me through messenger", and ignoring those for weeks on end sort of defeats the purpose and encourages those folks to not make plans with them...
- iak8god 9y ago
  That is the issue. I'd be more willing to try training my friends to contact me through other means except that, having recently moved to a new city where I knew no one, none of the people I currently spend time with IRL actually have much invested yet in being my friend, so tossing up hurdles seems unwise.