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Some of your questions come very close to blaming the victim, don't they? What the real shame here to me is that nude photos/videos are something to be ashamed

by js2 9y ago

Some of your questions come very close to blaming the victim, don't they? What the real shame here to me is that nude photos/videos are something to be ashamed of or embarrassed about in the first place. Because from that premise, now you need to be careful about what you allow to be filmed and by whom. It is especially sad that women apparently need too worry about this a lot more than men.

vivekd 9y ago
>Because from that premise, now you need to be careful about what you allow to be filmed and by whom. Yes, exactly!! You do need to be careful about what you allow to be filmed and by whom. That is the substance of my comment. I agree that this is unfortunate. Maybe in some wonderful utopia to come we won't have to worry about such things, but in this world and under current circumstances, unfortunately we have to take steps to protect ourselves from the possible evil deeds of other men and women.
- js2 9y ago
  You still shouldn't blame the victim. The problem here is the perpetrator. He probably would have found some other way to embarrass his girfriend even if she hadn't allowed the pictures/videos.
- izacus 9y ago
  You're kind of forgetting that a lot of these kind of recordings are not taken by the victims knowledge. And that they can literally destroy someone's life in the future - especially if they're entering a public profession like teaching.
cr0sh 9y ago
> What the real shame here to me is that nude photos/videos are something to be ashamed of or embarrassed about in the first place. If it were simply nude photos or videos, then I could wholly agree with you. But it's not like this in all cases. In many cases, these photos and videos are much more explicit; and while one shouldn't be ashamed of such videos, I can see the embarrassment aspect of them - there are some things that should remain in the bedroom between the participants unless they all agree to its public release. Furthermore, these instances aren't just to friends and family, but usually employers as well. It could mean a loss of income or worse for a person. If it goes to people or leaders of their religious community, it could cause some devastating repercussions, depending on that community.

by js2 9y ago

vivekd 9y ago

>Because from that premise, now you need to be careful about what you allow to be filmed and by whom. Yes, exactly!! You do need to be careful about what you allow to be filmed and by whom. That is the substance of my comment. I agree that this is unfortunate. Maybe in some wonderful utopia to come we won't have to worry about such things, but in this world and under current circumstances, unfortunately we have to take steps to protect ourselves from the possible evil deeds of other men and women.

js2 9y ago
You still shouldn't blame the victim. The problem here is the perpetrator. He probably would have found some other way to embarrass his girfriend even if she hadn't allowed the pictures/videos.
izacus 9y ago
You're kind of forgetting that a lot of these kind of recordings are not taken by the victims knowledge. And that they can literally destroy someone's life in the future - especially if they're entering a public profession like teaching.

cr0sh 9y ago

> What the real shame here to me is that nude photos/videos are something to be ashamed of or embarrassed about in the first place. If it were simply nude photos or videos, then I could wholly agree with you. But it's not like this in all cases. In many cases, these photos and videos are much more explicit; and while one shouldn't be ashamed of such videos, I can see the embarrassment aspect of them - there are some things that should remain in the bedroom between the participants unless they all agree to its public release. Furthermore, these instances aren't just to friends and family, but usually employers as well. It could mean a loss of income or worse for a person. If it goes to people or leaders of their religious community, it could cause some devastating repercussions, depending on that community.