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> But your friend also seems to have made a poor decision in allowing someone who is a creep to take very personal photos and videos of herself which could caus
by barsonme 9y ago
> But your friend also seems to have made a poor decision in allowing someone who is a creep to take very personal photos and videos of herself which could cause enormous humiliation.
Yeah, this is just classic victim blaming nonsense.
Sure, it's good advice to avoid recording anything you don't want eventually published—this goes for conversations as much as it does 'personal' pictures and videos.
But that's entirely irrelevant here and sharing 'personal' pictures with your significant other is normal.
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- vivekd 9y agoShe dated the wrong guy and trusted him too much. That's fine, lots of women make that mistake and she shouldn't be shamed or blamed for that. I never said she should be. All I am saying is that it's not facebooks responsibility to fix that mistake for her.
- foldr 9y agoShe didn't make a mistake. This is entirely the guy's fault, not hers.
- Strom 9y agoThe parent's central point isn't that the the victim is to blame here. It's that this sort of harassment is very much possible even without facebook existing. Being a victim does not make one immune to criticism. Agreeing to produce material that you don't want to be publicized does carry a risk. Not talking about this risk and shoving it under the carpet isn't going to help solve the problem. It's very much relevant here, as that is one key reason that enabled this whole drama. It may be increasingly normal for people to produce such material, but as shown by the article it's also increasingly common that this material is abused. Being more careful with production and storage of such material is a perfectly valid strategy to avoid this type of abuse. It shouldn't be ignored just because it can also be viewed as a mistake by a victim.
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