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I had a female friend last month whose ex-bf created a fake account and proceeded to set the profile and public photos and videos of them (having sex). He then
by rburhum 9y ago
I had a female friend last month whose ex-bf created a fake account and proceeded to set the profile and public photos and videos of them (having sex). He then went ahead and started sending friend requests to her entire family and friends. I felt so bad for her - it was awful enough to make her even have suicide thoughts.
What really surprised me was how horrible the FB system to report stuff like this is. It is basically non-existant. If this thing takes 1 month to be reviewed, that is 1 (eternal) month where the damage can be irreversible.
what is worse is that FB has posts about how they are "fighting" this without having any instructions or obvious process defined to report this. So you "report inappropriate content" and the report goes to a black hole while the perpetrator continues with their shenanigans. They dont even need to create a new acct, because they can keep going without the offending account getting blocked.
Something else is that the non-profit foundations that exist to fight this (the ones that will send legal take-down notices) are US-centric. This means that if you are from a latin american country and you face this (as was this particular case), you are screwed.
Yes obviously the lesson is not to take pics like that in the first place, but sadly a lot of the victims may not be that computer savvy or mature enough to realize what a mistake those things can be.
- rhizome 9y agoThis isn't about FB solving the problem, it's about FB announcing the existence of their own internal bureaucracies. That is, they won't solve the problem, but they'll create an email address specifically for the problem.
- orblivion 9y agoThis guy is in the videos as well, right? Could she somehow strike back harder and demolish his reputation? Tell his friends and family, and his employer, what he did to her? Who the hell would send a video of themselves having sex with someone to that person's family?
- cr0sh 9y ago> This guy is in the videos as well, right? I suppose that would depend on how well the guy knows about digital editing of video. ...for that matter, if you wanted to go the opposite way, and you had the right software (and a few other skills) - one could seriously put that guy in a very compromising situation by more digital editing...
- jacksnipe 9y agoUnfortunately, in a lot of cultures and environments today (where culture is not only your global, national, or regional culture, but also the culture that you choose to surround yourself with), this kind of thing is much more devastating for women than for men.
- orblivion 9y agoI'm not saying that the existence of porn is supposed to hurt his reputation. I'm saying the fact that he would violate somebody in this way should hurt his reputation. The porn is just evidence of his doing this. I'm in no way trying to diminish this lady's situation. On the contrary, it makes me angry and I would want to see this guy see some serious consequences for it.
- rabboRubble 9y agoYou were downvoted... but you make a point that I (as a woman) would have no problems following. I would call / message / text his mom. His sister. His boss. His dad. The new girlfriend.
- phaus 9y agoNot sure what the norm is, but I reported a fake account using my wife's picture (just a single, regular portrait) and it was removed within 5 minutes. A month would be ridiculous. I wonder if that happens often?
- jamii 9y agoI regularly get friend requests from scantily clad teenagers in a city I no longer live in, whose profiles are full of links to porn sites. I report them, and a few weeks later get back a message saying 'we reviewed your report and found nothing objectionable'. There isn't even a report category that seems accurate - I usually pick 'fake account'.
- s_kilk 9y agoThere must be some real dullards working on the mod team.
- aarongolliver 9y agoI report spam & fake accounts all the time and get responses back before the next day.
- erikbye 9y ago> Yes obviously the lesson is not to take pics like that in the first place, but sadly a lot of the victims may not be that computer savvy or mature enough to realize what a mistake those things can be. In a lot of cases pics like that are not even taken voluntarily but unknowingly.
- mercer 9y agocould you elaborate on that? Honestly curious. EDIT: about the issue, not the materials in question!