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I want to live

11 points by thecircusb0y 16y ago

Lets not go into details, lets just go with, how can I start living life? How can I take the plunge into a non calculated, risky maneuver of experience to gain wisdom over knowledge. I have gone to college, I have a job, my bills are paid for. What are your suggestions to adding excitement to life? What do you do?

milhous 16y ago
Wisdom comes only with age. Enjoy nature, and travel the world. Meet new and different people/cultures. Spend money on experiences, not on unnecessary stuff. Learn to play an instrument. Never stop learning.
- thecircusb0y 16y ago
  Waiting on my violin to be repaired right now. Downsizing myself and my things, moving out of my apartment to live with a friend and save money.
- stakent 16y ago
  Fully agree except the first sentence. Wisdom comes with experiences. The right ones. Not spending all days in the cubicle. Or staring at the computer screen.
petercooper 16y ago
You could fall in love, get married, have a kid and raise a family. The whole process is a real eye opener and, possibly, the ultimate provider of wisdom.
- thecircusb0y 16y ago
  I have my whole life to fall in love, and perhaps I can't fall in love right now cause my life is too calculated.
  - petercooper 16y ago
    I have my whole life to fall in love Sure you do, but this seems a little redundant. Your have your whole life to do any of the suggestions that might be raised unless it involves checking out certain endangered species or something :-)
    - thecircusb0y 16y ago
      Perhaps, truth be told, I already know her, I just can't seem to get her attention.
      - msencenb 16y ago
        Perhaps you should move on to someone else or get up the courage to ask her out. Either she will reject you and you can move on or she will take you up on the offer. There are a lot of fish in the sea... people are often just too afraid to take the plunge. "Don't make someone a priority if they only make you an option"
        thecircusb0y 16y ago
        That quote is fantastic, thank you very much.
- julius_geezer 16y ago
  "You could fall in love". Kind of hard to plan for, though as I recall it used to happen a lot. "get married, have a kid and raise a family." Very much worth doing, but for itself, rather than as a part of one's education.
  - petercooper 16y ago
    I agree, but the OP wanted "wisdom" and to add "excitement" to their life. I think these two come naturally through the process of building a family - at least, they have for me :-) Of course, such things shouldn't be forced and, I dare say, it's not for everyone.
Recontemplation 16y ago
Seek God and spiritual truth. Your going to die no matter how long or great your life turns out to be.
nandemo 16y ago
Not exactly what you asked for, but I find this thread inspiring: "Ask HN: Cool Things You've Done (Brag Thread)" http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1200959 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1200959
- thecircusb0y 16y ago
  Thanks man, I'll definitely read it.
thecircusb0y 16y ago
All this came from reading this-> http://i.imgur.com/ztpGt.png http://i.imgur.com/ztpGt.png and I think it's pretty accurate.
thecircusb0y 16y ago
Please disregard this, I put very little effort in giving you any real information to know anything or understand anything about this situation. That was stupid of me. I'm an avid reader of the site, and I was in a state of looking for help, but I'm weak in asking the right questions. Thanks for your input.
- falcone 16y ago
  Don't worry no one on this site can answer your questions no matter how much information you give us. You already know the answers anyway. You have chosen so far to ignore them but they're still there poking your insides constantly. Until you have the energy to look inside yourself they'll continue to plague your existence with dissatisfaction.
ganley 16y ago
Travel.
- garply 16y ago
  Travel is great, but living abroad, in as alien of a culture as you can find, is even better.
amk 16y ago
I feel a person only enjoys his life if there is unpredictability, which adds excitement. I guess specifically asking others what excites them is kinda pointless. Just think of something which you may enjoy doing but have never tried, and just go out and do it. Do you listen to music? Ever wondered how guitarists play the guitar? Seems like fun? Take a guitar class. Who knows.. If you get good at it, you might find some like minded musicians and form a band. Do you think outdoor activities would be fun? Try hiking, camping, travel, etc. Have you ever wondered how much fun it would be to dance, but have never tried it because you don't want to embarrass yourself? Take a dancing class. Hit the clubs! Basically, you have the entire world at your disposal! You are very lucky to have enough time to yourself to try new things.
tehwayne 16y ago
find some hobbies or things that get you excited on a daily basis in your free time? honestly, this is so personal and subjective all you can really do is try a lot of different things maybe you want to be comfortable, "happy", or "make a difference" as long as you reach the point where you feel truly satisfied and truly happy with what you are doing, it probably doesn't matter what you're doing (unless you hurt others, I suppose, lol) I don't think that the question should be so much "how to live life" or "take a risk", it should be more about how you can be satisfied about who you are, what you do, on a daily basis because you've found a place/position in this world to call your own of course most of us will have a hard time figuring this out and actually finding where we can be happy is a constant search
YonghoShin 16y ago
Devote time to creating meaning in your life, something that you dedicate your default free time to. When you find out what you're driven by (hint: it's not a job), you'll wake up each day with a heightened sense of awareness and excitement. Highly recommended book to read: Life on Purpose, Brad Swift
MisterWebz 16y ago
I would love to finally find something that i absolutely love to do and spend all my life doing it. I like programming, but it's more a means to an end. So i'd like to suggest that you find what you love to do.
jodrellblank 16y ago
What do you do? I post on the internet to avoid having to actually do things, just like you are now. How can I take the plunge into a non calculated, risky maneuver of experience to gain wisdom over knowledge. Not by asking an internet community to suggest things you can read about and plan to one day do. Why do you need an exciting life oh wait you answered that, because you're afraid nobody will love you if you're boring. Now you're trying to live a life you don't particularly desire but feel socially pressured into living so you're avoiding doing so by asking instead of doing. Let's face it, if this was a real desire for excitement instead of a desire to seem exciting, you wouldn't be asking us "how do I live an exciting life", you'd be asking yourself "how do I want to feel? Excited? OK, what can I do that looks exciting and enjoyable? Hot air ballooning? Where can I get a flight around here? How much is it? How long until I can afford that? When can I book it? This is going to be so cool! I can't wait!" </armchair psychoanalysis>
thetylerhayes 16y ago
Only one suggestion: turn off your computer and see what happens from there.
CyberFonic 16y ago
Turn off your computer, get out off the house! Take a camera or video camera, record your experiences. Chat to people you meet, have an affair or three, learn to paint, learn a musical instrument or ten, sing in public, go to the galleries, go to the opera, concerts. TRAVEL and do all of the above.
kimfuh 16y ago
kayak.com/explore
andre3k1 16y ago
Grab a pen and notepad and start writing. Write down (in great detail) every single childhood dream that you can remember. ANYTHING in life that you have dreamed of doing. WRITE WRITE AND WRITE until your hand falls off. From there organize these "dreams" into goals of what you can do now and what you can aim for in the future. I did this on January 1st this year, and so far this has been the greatest year of my life. Trust me, always side with your heart. Your childhood fantasies represent the real you. Since completing this exercise I have learned how to scuba dive (dream of swimming with fish), sky dive (dream of flying), surf (love surfing!), learned "pick up" from a master (always wanted to have women in my life), in the process of learning how to code and start my own startup (my childhood dream wasn't to be an astronaut or fire fighter, I wanted to be an inventor!).
- thecircusb0y 16y ago
  #learned "pick up" from a master (always wanted to have women in my life) Could you please elaborate on this? Since graduating college, this is difficult to me.
hellotoby 16y ago
One word. Travel.

I want to live

11 points by thecircusb0y 16y ago

milhous 16y ago

Wisdom comes only with age. Enjoy nature, and travel the world. Meet new and different people/cultures. Spend money on experiences, not on unnecessary stuff. Learn to play an instrument. Never stop learning.

thecircusb0y 16y ago
Waiting on my violin to be repaired right now. Downsizing myself and my things, moving out of my apartment to live with a friend and save money.
stakent 16y ago
Fully agree except the first sentence. Wisdom comes with experiences. The right ones. Not spending all days in the cubicle. Or staring at the computer screen.

petercooper 16y ago

You could fall in love, get married, have a kid and raise a family. The whole process is a real eye opener and, possibly, the ultimate provider of wisdom.

thecircusb0y 16y ago
I have my whole life to fall in love, and perhaps I can't fall in love right now cause my life is too calculated.
- petercooper 16y ago
  I have my whole life to fall in love Sure you do, but this seems a little redundant. Your have your whole life to do any of the suggestions that might be raised unless it involves checking out certain endangered species or something :-)
  - thecircusb0y 16y ago
    Perhaps, truth be told, I already know her, I just can't seem to get her attention.
    - msencenb 16y ago
      Perhaps you should move on to someone else or get up the courage to ask her out. Either she will reject you and you can move on or she will take you up on the offer. There are a lot of fish in the sea... people are often just too afraid to take the plunge. "Don't make someone a priority if they only make you an option"
      - thecircusb0y 16y ago
        That quote is fantastic, thank you very much.
julius_geezer 16y ago
"You could fall in love". Kind of hard to plan for, though as I recall it used to happen a lot. "get married, have a kid and raise a family." Very much worth doing, but for itself, rather than as a part of one's education.
- petercooper 16y ago
  I agree, but the OP wanted "wisdom" and to add "excitement" to their life. I think these two come naturally through the process of building a family - at least, they have for me :-) Of course, such things shouldn't be forced and, I dare say, it's not for everyone.

Recontemplation 16y ago

Seek God and spiritual truth. Your going to die no matter how long or great your life turns out to be.

nandemo 16y ago

Not exactly what you asked for, but I find this thread inspiring: "Ask HN: Cool Things You've Done (Brag Thread)" http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1200959 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1200959

thecircusb0y 16y ago
Thanks man, I'll definitely read it.

thecircusb0y 16y ago

All this came from reading this-> http://i.imgur.com/ztpGt.png http://i.imgur.com/ztpGt.png and I think it's pretty accurate.

thecircusb0y 16y ago

Please disregard this, I put very little effort in giving you any real information to know anything or understand anything about this situation. That was stupid of me. I'm an avid reader of the site, and I was in a state of looking for help, but I'm weak in asking the right questions. Thanks for your input.

falcone 16y ago
Don't worry no one on this site can answer your questions no matter how much information you give us. You already know the answers anyway. You have chosen so far to ignore them but they're still there poking your insides constantly. Until you have the energy to look inside yourself they'll continue to plague your existence with dissatisfaction.

ganley 16y ago

Travel.

garply 16y ago
Travel is great, but living abroad, in as alien of a culture as you can find, is even better.

amk 16y ago

I feel a person only enjoys his life if there is unpredictability, which adds excitement. I guess specifically asking others what excites them is kinda pointless. Just think of something which you may enjoy doing but have never tried, and just go out and do it. Do you listen to music? Ever wondered how guitarists play the guitar? Seems like fun? Take a guitar class. Who knows.. If you get good at it, you might find some like minded musicians and form a band. Do you think outdoor activities would be fun? Try hiking, camping, travel, etc. Have you ever wondered how much fun it would be to dance, but have never tried it because you don't want to embarrass yourself? Take a dancing class. Hit the clubs! Basically, you have the entire world at your disposal! You are very lucky to have enough time to yourself to try new things.

tehwayne 16y ago

find some hobbies or things that get you excited on a daily basis in your free time? honestly, this is so personal and subjective all you can really do is try a lot of different things maybe you want to be comfortable, "happy", or "make a difference" as long as you reach the point where you feel truly satisfied and truly happy with what you are doing, it probably doesn't matter what you're doing (unless you hurt others, I suppose, lol) I don't think that the question should be so much "how to live life" or "take a risk", it should be more about how you can be satisfied about who you are, what you do, on a daily basis because you've found a place/position in this world to call your own of course most of us will have a hard time figuring this out and actually finding where we can be happy is a constant search

YonghoShin 16y ago

Devote time to creating meaning in your life, something that you dedicate your default free time to. When you find out what you're driven by (hint: it's not a job), you'll wake up each day with a heightened sense of awareness and excitement. Highly recommended book to read: Life on Purpose, Brad Swift

MisterWebz 16y ago

I would love to finally find something that i absolutely love to do and spend all my life doing it. I like programming, but it's more a means to an end. So i'd like to suggest that you find what you love to do.

jodrellblank 16y ago

What do you do? I post on the internet to avoid having to actually do things, just like you are now. How can I take the plunge into a non calculated, risky maneuver of experience to gain wisdom over knowledge. Not by asking an internet community to suggest things you can read about and plan to one day do. Why do you need an exciting life oh wait you answered that, because you're afraid nobody will love you if you're boring. Now you're trying to live a life you don't particularly desire but feel socially pressured into living so you're avoiding doing so by asking instead of doing. Let's face it, if this was a real desire for excitement instead of a desire to seem exciting, you wouldn't be asking us "how do I live an exciting life", you'd be asking yourself "how do I want to feel? Excited? OK, what can I do that looks exciting and enjoyable? Hot air ballooning? Where can I get a flight around here? How much is it? How long until I can afford that? When can I book it? This is going to be so cool! I can't wait!" </armchair psychoanalysis>

thetylerhayes 16y ago

Only one suggestion: turn off your computer and see what happens from there.

CyberFonic 16y ago

Turn off your computer, get out off the house! Take a camera or video camera, record your experiences. Chat to people you meet, have an affair or three, learn to paint, learn a musical instrument or ten, sing in public, go to the galleries, go to the opera, concerts. TRAVEL and do all of the above.

kimfuh 16y ago

kayak.com/explore

andre3k1 16y ago

Grab a pen and notepad and start writing. Write down (in great detail) every single childhood dream that you can remember. ANYTHING in life that you have dreamed of doing. WRITE WRITE AND WRITE until your hand falls off. From there organize these "dreams" into goals of what you can do now and what you can aim for in the future. I did this on January 1st this year, and so far this has been the greatest year of my life. Trust me, always side with your heart. Your childhood fantasies represent the real you. Since completing this exercise I have learned how to scuba dive (dream of swimming with fish), sky dive (dream of flying), surf (love surfing!), learned "pick up" from a master (always wanted to have women in my life), in the process of learning how to code and start my own startup (my childhood dream wasn't to be an astronaut or fire fighter, I wanted to be an inventor!).

thecircusb0y 16y ago
#learned "pick up" from a master (always wanted to have women in my life) Could you please elaborate on this? Since graduating college, this is difficult to me.

hellotoby 16y ago

One word. Travel.