Indeed it is "normal" in the sense that it is common, but allow me to elaborate. >>Imagine constantly viewing yourself as a failure for 18+ years because you a

Indeed it is "normal" in the sense that it is common, but allow me to elaborate. >>Imagine constantly viewing yourself as a failure for 18+ years because you are unable to control your child's behavior This sentiment implies the impossible and horrid belief that a parent has and should exercise absolute control over their child's mind. Incessantly blaming yourself for 18+ years for something you were never in control of in the first place is self-destructive and masochistic. Furthermore having such an attitude is toxic to those around you, like that of a infectious disease, and would only serve to reinforce the mental issues of the child.