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>Imagine constantly viewing yourself as a failure for 18+ years because you are unable to control your child's behavior I understand this sentiment, but lookin
by wu-ikkyu 9y ago
>Imagine constantly viewing yourself as a failure for 18+ years because you are unable to control your child's behavior
I understand this sentiment, but looking at it from another angle, this sentiment suggests control/blame issues on the part of the parent. Which itself can be classified as a "mental illness".
This highlights how often the macro social environment is ignored in the production of mental issues, and how the blunt of the blame is placed on the individual.
- projektir 9y agoI'm not sure I understand what you're trying to say... that if a parent tends to blame issues with their children on themselves, that parent has a mental illness? I don't think you understand a parent's position in society. It may not be a beneficial reaction, but it's presently a fairly normal one.
- wu-ikkyu 9y agoIndeed it is "normal" in the sense that it is common, but allow me to elaborate. >>Imagine constantly viewing yourself as a failure for 18+ years because you are unable to control your child's behavior This sentiment implies the impossible and horrid belief that a parent has and should exercise absolute control over their child's mind. Incessantly blaming yourself for 18+ years for something you were never in control of in the first place is self-destructive and masochistic. Furthermore having such an attitude is toxic to those around you, like that of a infectious disease, and would only serve to reinforce the mental issues of the child.