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Yes, I agree. Men are often told they need to be everything: Successful yet don't work too much. Help with the kids, yet don't be feminine. Be strong, yet sens
by socrates1998 9y ago
Yes, I agree. Men are often told they need to be everything:
Successful yet don't work too much. Help with the kids, yet don't be feminine. Be strong, yet sensitive. Have hard employable skills, but also be an artist. Don't play video games, but be fun to be around.
All of these are difficult to balance.
The scary part is the a majority of divorces are ended by women.
I don't know the answer, but as long as we acknowledge the fact that both modern men and modern women have a long list of conflicting demands on them, I think we can show everyone more compassion.
- lemonsqueeze 9y agoMen don't need compassion. They have the Patriarchy
- dionidium 9y ago"Don't play video games, but be fun to be around." I was nodding along until I got to this one. What in the world do video games have to do with being a fun person to be around?
- greglindahl 9y agoI think the point here is about interacting with a computer vs interacting with the people in the room.
- dionidium 9y agoYes, except those two ideas are strikingly compatible :)
- exergy 9y agoIt's just an innocent figure of speech he used, I don't see the problem here.
- olalonde 9y agoIt was probably a poor example but I read it as "don't have fun but be fun".
- socrates1998 9y agoYeah, it was poorly worded. I just meant it is difficult to have fun because of the expectation to entertain people you are around.
- iliketosleep 9y agoPerhaps one of the solutions is to acknowledge that you cannot have it all ways. In general, society demands that men have all the positive traits of masculinity, without any of the perceived negatives. A woman may marry a man because he is a successful career-orientated man. Later, she may divorce him because he’s not sensitive enough to her emotional needs. Exceptions aside, certain traits tend to go together, for better or for worse, and this is the case with both masculinity and femininity. In this way, I wish people were more accepting and less judgemental.
- QuickOne 9y agoJust watch the cycles: http://www.livescience.com/8779-fertile-women-manly-men.html http://www.livescience.com/8779-fertile-women-manly-men.html