I think a big part of reckoning with these social pressures may be simply expressing them out loud. It seems to be a truism of therapy that "you should never be

I think a big part of reckoning with these social pressures may be simply expressing them out loud. It seems to be a truism of therapy that "you should never be ashamed of your feelings," but the very real benefits that white men continue to reap on one level tend to preclude an emotionally honest reckoning on another level. A lot of the negative effects documented in this essay seem to purely relate to cognitive dissonance. For example, the essay said that men would be more willing to accept certain "child-friendly policies" if they believe that it would not decrease their socially-perceived masculinity. I can only believe that it would also help men to openly express these fears, to state out loud the dissonance in their self conception that (largely positive) social change has wrought.