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As a stay at home dad, I agree. Everything is still very gender biased. I cannot tell you how hard it is for our piano teacher to start to say "mom" or "mom'

As a stay at home dad, I agree. Everything is still very gender biased. I cannot tell you how hard it is for our piano teacher to start to say "mom" or "mom's", then remember I'm in the room and also say "dad". It's also still a little socially strange for a dad to go to group of moms and try to get their phone numbers to arrange play dates. But there are other dads that stay at home, it can be done, and everything has its challenges. We do need more men to stay at home, IMHO. In particular, young girls really benefit from strong paternal relationships. I think there's a growing stigma in the US against being a parent. I think that has grave consequences for our children. It's hard to show compassion for others if nobody has ever shown compassion to you.

ryanmarsh 9y ago
> I think there's a growing stigma in the US against being a parent. There's a growing stigma against women who choose to stay at home too. My wife reports that women who don't stay home are (at minimum) condescending about SAHM and often say very nasty things. I won't venture a guess as to why because it doesn't matter. It's not right. When women at work find out my wife stays home I've heard the most bizarre comments. I'm pretty disgusted by everyone's desire to politicize my happy little home. It's just gross.
- YCode 9y ago
  I'm sure it depends heavily on your country, career field, age, income level, etc... Most people I know were somewhere between surprised and jealous, more or less impressed that we were able to not go bankrupt with just me working and my wife at home. Mothers especially told me they wished they could have stayed home when their children were young. I was shocked how many people I worked with had to go back to work days or weeks after giving birth. Then again I'm a guy, so maybe it comes off as being a good provider versus taking the "easy" way.

ryanmarsh 9y ago

> I think there's a growing stigma in the US against being a parent. There's a growing stigma against women who choose to stay at home too. My wife reports that women who don't stay home are (at minimum) condescending about SAHM and often say very nasty things. I won't venture a guess as to why because it doesn't matter. It's not right. When women at work find out my wife stays home I've heard the most bizarre comments. I'm pretty disgusted by everyone's desire to politicize my happy little home. It's just gross.

YCode 9y ago
I'm sure it depends heavily on your country, career field, age, income level, etc... Most people I know were somewhere between surprised and jealous, more or less impressed that we were able to not go bankrupt with just me working and my wife at home. Mothers especially told me they wished they could have stayed home when their children were young. I was shocked how many people I worked with had to go back to work days or weeks after giving birth. Then again I'm a guy, so maybe it comes off as being a good provider versus taking the "easy" way.