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Here is my tip on being someone people love to talk to. Be interested in the person you are talking to. Be curious about them and most important of all listen,

Here is my tip on being someone people love to talk to. Be interested in the person you are talking to. Be curious about them and most important of all listen, attentively to everything. You'll learn a lot, people will share their deepest darkest things with you. Listen without judgement, without trying to reply, and it will change your life, sounds simple but really difficult to do. Something to practice over your life time.

johnfn 9y ago
What if the person I'm talking to just isn't that fascinating? This is a terrible thing to say and admit and I half expect to be downvoted for it, but here goes anyways: I feel like a lot of people who I talk to aren't. I'm fully willing to admit this is some fault of my own, but how exactly can I reconfigure myself to be more interested in people?
- mistermann 9y ago
  Try your hardest to imagine life from that person's perspective as they talk maybe? You may feel more empathy that way.
- cgriswald 9y ago
  Be selfish. Accept that everyone you will ever meet has learned or experienced something you have not learned or experienced, and you can, therefore, learn something from them. Try to draw it out of them. Over time you'll probably start becoming genuinely interested in people who don't currently fascinate you.
  - KnTea 9y ago
    But if I treat everyone like a gold mine then they'll run dry sooner or later. How do you keep the genuine interest up?
- watwut 9y ago
  Maybe that person has a hobby you know nothing about, so you can try to learn about that hobby. Or profession you know little about, so you can try to learn about that profession. It does not have to be person as such, it may be something that person is interested in or is doing. Also, dont get too far with just listening. People who dont reciprocate are difficult to talk to after you already said everything possible, it is nice when the other person joins the discussion.

johnfn 9y ago

What if the person I'm talking to just isn't that fascinating? This is a terrible thing to say and admit and I half expect to be downvoted for it, but here goes anyways: I feel like a lot of people who I talk to aren't. I'm fully willing to admit this is some fault of my own, but how exactly can I reconfigure myself to be more interested in people?

mistermann 9y ago
Try your hardest to imagine life from that person's perspective as they talk maybe? You may feel more empathy that way.
cgriswald 9y ago
Be selfish. Accept that everyone you will ever meet has learned or experienced something you have not learned or experienced, and you can, therefore, learn something from them. Try to draw it out of them. Over time you'll probably start becoming genuinely interested in people who don't currently fascinate you.
- KnTea 9y ago
  But if I treat everyone like a gold mine then they'll run dry sooner or later. How do you keep the genuine interest up?
watwut 9y ago
Maybe that person has a hobby you know nothing about, so you can try to learn about that hobby. Or profession you know little about, so you can try to learn about that profession. It does not have to be person as such, it may be something that person is interested in or is doing. Also, dont get too far with just listening. People who dont reciprocate are difficult to talk to after you already said everything possible, it is nice when the other person joins the discussion.