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Cut them out of your life.

• Jtsummers 10y ago
  I just stopped inviting people to things when they failed to respond or failed to abide by their response without reasonable notice. They still get invited to certain events, but since I tend to be the person charged with organizing all social events for my group I was inviting people to things on a weekly basis. The non-responders and the yes-but-don't-show folks only get invited to monthly and other less frequent events (usually big ones, like someone's 40th birthday). At best, I count their responses as 1/2 responses. Every one that has the habit of not showing after saying yes has a 50/50 shot of getting a seat if they all manage to show up.
  • monksy 10y ago
    Why even bother to invite them at all?
    • Jtsummers 10y ago
      They're still friends, if not of mine, of other people who would like to see them there. Sometimes, for bigger events like at someone's home, their inability to RSVP properly is irrelevant (there will already be so many people, a handful of no-shows won't matter, and if they show there'll already be plenty of food or activities). I generally avoid inviting them to the smaller events where the no-shows become really annoying (I hate going to a restaurant, getting a table for 10, and having to give up 5 of the seats an hour later, it's completely unfair to the waitstaff and the business for the lost income potential).
    • khedoros1 10y ago
      Presumably, because you would've considered inviting them in the first place because you'd like to see them. In my case, it doesn't bother me the same way that it seems to bother you. "Cut them out of your life" seems like an overreaction.