> Compromise is born from an adversarial starting position. I get what your saying but all compromise is from an 'adversarial' is over egging it. Sometimes yes

> Compromise is born from an adversarial starting position. I get what your saying but all compromise is from an 'adversarial' is over egging it. Sometimes yes, but iother times no. E.g. My wife likes curry mild and I prefer spicy. Sometimes we have mild, other times spicy. There is no conflict here. We know each prefers the other and will encourage or accept the others preference because we know it makes them happy. This is a small example that scales to larger issues. The larger the issue the more we discuss to nut out what really matters. Sometime we argue but we get back to the discussion later with cool heads. I feel your fooling yourself if you believe there there will be no adversarial events in a long term relationship.