I think one of the compromises being inadequately discussed so far in these threads is that people sometimes need to realize they are holding onto a personal id

I think one of the compromises being inadequately discussed so far in these threads is that people sometimes need to realize they are holding onto a personal identity or value system that has gone stale, and ruin relationships in the process. I think that the process of letting go of attachments, in the spiritual sense, is really about internal desires and inflexibility in the individual. This can emerge as a toxic effect in all their relationships.