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Results I dont think anyone gets uptight about, the actual DNA data absolutely. People get uptight because in the future someone like an employment agency or l

Results I dont think anyone gets uptight about, the actual DNA data absolutely. People get uptight because in the future someone like an employment agency or life insurance company might buy one of these services and use the data to discriminate. There's also social consequences that may come of this, like if you had a one night stand, public publishing your DNA might create a bread crumb for your child to find you which could be a good or bad thing depending on if you had a spouse at the time for example.

Baeocystin 9y ago
I found out I have a surprise half-sister through 23andme. It also turns out that my Dad may not actually be my biological father. It affects you more than you might think. I personally want the truth, no matter what, so after a few weeks of thinking about things, I was ok with what I learned. The hard part is dealing with family members than may not feel the same. People need to be aware of just how messy this can get.
- dajohnson89 9y ago
  How did you find out about your half sister? I thought 23&me only gives you information about yourself and nobody else?!
  - Baeocystin 9y ago
    She contacted me via 23andMe. I could have left it at that, they don't give out details. And I had to chose to participate in the 'find your relatives' feature. It's as open or closed as you want it to be.
- taneq 9y ago
  > surprise half-sister > Dad may not actually be my biological father Wow, what a pair of bombshells! Was this stuff known to both your parents or did it blow someone's cover?
  - Baeocystin 9y ago
    Unfortunately, I can't ask them, as my mother has passed away, and my father will not talk about it. The fact that my Dad wasn't interested in genetic testing was my first hint, as that is very unlike him. But it makes sense in the larger pattern- I am the youngest of the family by 15(!) years, and all of my siblings were adopted. It seems pretty clear in retrospect that my parents likely had to use a sperm bank. I've had my suspicions for a while, so this wasn't the complete shock it could have been. Still threw me for a loop at first, though.
    - taneq 9y ago
      Oh right, a sperm bank would explain both factors neatly. Certainly loop-worthy though!

Baeocystin 9y ago

I found out I have a surprise half-sister through 23andme. It also turns out that my Dad may not actually be my biological father. It affects you more than you might think. I personally want the truth, no matter what, so after a few weeks of thinking about things, I was ok with what I learned. The hard part is dealing with family members than may not feel the same. People need to be aware of just how messy this can get.

dajohnson89 9y ago
How did you find out about your half sister? I thought 23&me only gives you information about yourself and nobody else?!
- Baeocystin 9y ago
  She contacted me via 23andMe. I could have left it at that, they don't give out details. And I had to chose to participate in the 'find your relatives' feature. It's as open or closed as you want it to be.
taneq 9y ago
> surprise half-sister > Dad may not actually be my biological father Wow, what a pair of bombshells! Was this stuff known to both your parents or did it blow someone's cover?
- Baeocystin 9y ago
  Unfortunately, I can't ask them, as my mother has passed away, and my father will not talk about it. The fact that my Dad wasn't interested in genetic testing was my first hint, as that is very unlike him. But it makes sense in the larger pattern- I am the youngest of the family by 15(!) years, and all of my siblings were adopted. It seems pretty clear in retrospect that my parents likely had to use a sperm bank. I've had my suspicions for a while, so this wasn't the complete shock it could have been. Still threw me for a loop at first, though.
  - taneq 9y ago
    Oh right, a sperm bank would explain both factors neatly. Certainly loop-worthy though!