I've ended up just moving the messenger into a fluid (osx) window on my status bar and not having the site in my browser all the time has helped a lot. Being a

I've ended up just moving the messenger into a fluid (osx) window on my status bar and not having the site in my browser all the time has helped a lot. Being able to pop down just the messages with a click and back off straight after means I'm only going to the site every other day to check the notifications for a few minutes.