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Am I the only person here who thinks that most of the comments on this thread are indicative of people grossly over-thinking dating? The only real pre-requisit
by Aaronontheweb 16y ago
Am I the only person here who thinks that most of the comments on this thread are indicative of people grossly over-thinking dating?
The only real pre-requisite for dating is that you like yourself; if you like yourself, then other people will (although not all people.) Everything else you'll have to learn experientially - everything from how to collect a phone number to how to tactfully handle delicate / awkward situations.
- paulnelligan 16y agoYou said what I was thinking. This idea that you have to manipulate women into liking you through psychology obviously means that your own natural charms aren't working. Having a good time, joking, laughing, and enjoying yourself is going to help you a lot more than focusing on the pitch of your voice - but that's just my perspective. In reality, these dating self-help books and the people who use them creep me out a bit. Mostly because I have a sister and many close female friends.
- gaius 16y agoYou're missing the point. It's about unlearning things you've been told which are wrong. Like the point about buying a girl a drink, it obviously doesn't "work", yet boys keep doing it anyway, because, umm, well, that's just what you do, isn't it? Sure there is a lot of bullshit around, but the basic principle of all this pick-artist business is, you're using a "routine" anyway, just without being consciously aware that you are, instead you should take conscious control of it.
- paulnelligan 16y agoFair enough - if you need it, then use it. I buy drinks for women, and get bought drinks by women, especially if I'm out on a date. I generally don't have any issues with it, and it never really affects my chances - maybe it's just the culture I live in ...