Also-- I do like the actual content of the written-rule-plus-oral-tradition. I think a lot of the cases where newcomers get flustered comes from genuine enthusi

Also-- I do like the actual content of the written-rule-plus-oral-tradition. I think a lot of the cases where newcomers get flustered comes from genuine enthusiasm of a mentor who fails to reflect on the power imbalance their increased level of knowledge creates. A joke or affectation that would be playful between two knowledgeable insiders can on the other hand easily crush the spirits of an outsider.