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This is a good chance for some self-reflection! I'd like to be living somewhere with better weather than New York City. Also with more outdoor and recreational

This is a good chance for some self-reflection! I'd like to be living somewhere with better weather than New York City. Also with more outdoor and recreational opportunities. I get really, really depressed every year between like December and April except for skiing and 1 or 2 other winter activities that keep me going. But the dreariness and hibernating bother the f*ck out of me. Yes, I know it's all about what you wear out and not the weather but really...it's not, at least for me. I'd imagine that I'll be married to my current girlfriend. I love her deeply and it seems like that's the path I'm going to take at this time <3. As far as work - it would be really cool if it was cyclical. Spend 2 or 3 months on, 2 or 3 months off. Working on writing code and making things happen for myself or other people. Have enough in the bank to work only when I have to only on projects I care about but still own the house I've always wanted to. Speaking of that, I'd also either like to have bought the land and started envisioning or to have actually built by dream home, a modern house that's kind of like the one from Ex Machina, in nature and completely automated! Cliche, I know. In an ideal world, I'd be working in some capacity to get us off this rock. Kind of hard to transition from web dev to space though, I think? Haven't tried it yet, might be time to soon. All of the above is said knowing that I already have a much better life than most and I'm not really entitled to more, but I'll work for it and try to get it like any other human. As far as IT - I agree with a commenter below. It's cyclical and not too much will be new. I do think something will have begun taking more of a foothold that will replace mobile phones, either AR or VR based. Otherwise probably not too much will change. Which is sad because progress is just too slow for me.

nunez 9y ago
Hey! I was you last year. Hated NYC for a long time but feared getting out. I eventually cracked and just started looking for jobs in the DFW area. Took me about three months, but we made it and are getting married next year! It's possible!
- thebiglebrewski 9y ago
  Thanks for the reply! What made you choose Dallas Fort Worth? Where are you and your wife from? Congrats on the move!
  - nunez 9y ago
    Sure! Much warmer weather. Very very VERY little snow. Amazing roads (I love to drive). More value for my rent money. "No state income tax." (This benefit will go away once I start paying property taxes if we ever buy a home here.) Lots of opportunity for learning how to start a business. (Lots of businesses here; many are non-tech, which I am fine with since tech companies are kind of overrated and there are plenty of big markets to tackle outside of tech.) Wife is from nearby and some of her family is here.
    - thebiglebrewski 9y ago
      Very interesting. Sounds like the main reason is that your wife is from nearby though with tangential benefits?
      - nunez 9y ago
        Actually, no! That was icing on the cake for me. (I didn't need to "sell" the move to Dallas!) I love uncomfortably hot weather, and Dallas has plenty of it during the summer months. I also hate winter, which Dallas has very little of. (We had a proper winter between November and early February, approximately, with one episode of snow that shut everything down.) I also wanted to take advantage of Dallas's better, cheaper real estate, especially since I knew I could find a job in tech that would pay more than jobs in NYC. (My hypothesis proved to be correct --- my current salary is $10k more than what I made in NYC.) When I eventually start my business, I intend on starting it here. I have no desire to be in the Valley. I want to try as hard as I can to make something that will have investors coming to me, not the other way around. (i.e. get access to capital for essentially nothing) Since "better" is relative, I always valued space and privacy over proximity and location. It is much easier and cheaper to get a home with a nice amount of land than it is in the NYC Metro. I would have closed already if it weren't for the amount of debt I have outstanding, but it is what it is. I love our current apartment but am afraid that we are going to be unable to afford a house when I'm ready to close and I generally hate maintaining anything myself and the complexity of real estate and taxes therein. I've been planning a move to Texas since 2012. I could have done it in 2010, but I decided to stay for an awesome job opp in NYC (which proved to be the right choice at the time; I am extremely thankful for my time there). The opportunity rose again in 2013, but I stayed for a girl. (We're getting married --- in Dallas --- next year.) I had false starts in 2014 and 2015, but I finally decided to "just do it" in 2016. Took me three months to find a job with the same take home pay; it is surprisingly difficult to find a job 1300 miles away from you! I felt pretty worthless during that time, lol. But I did it!

nunez 9y ago

Hey! I was you last year. Hated NYC for a long time but feared getting out. I eventually cracked and just started looking for jobs in the DFW area. Took me about three months, but we made it and are getting married next year! It's possible!

thebiglebrewski 9y ago
Thanks for the reply! What made you choose Dallas Fort Worth? Where are you and your wife from? Congrats on the move!
- nunez 9y ago
  Sure! Much warmer weather. Very very VERY little snow. Amazing roads (I love to drive). More value for my rent money. "No state income tax." (This benefit will go away once I start paying property taxes if we ever buy a home here.) Lots of opportunity for learning how to start a business. (Lots of businesses here; many are non-tech, which I am fine with since tech companies are kind of overrated and there are plenty of big markets to tackle outside of tech.) Wife is from nearby and some of her family is here.
  - thebiglebrewski 9y ago
    Very interesting. Sounds like the main reason is that your wife is from nearby though with tangential benefits?
    - nunez 9y ago
      Actually, no! That was icing on the cake for me. (I didn't need to "sell" the move to Dallas!) I love uncomfortably hot weather, and Dallas has plenty of it during the summer months. I also hate winter, which Dallas has very little of. (We had a proper winter between November and early February, approximately, with one episode of snow that shut everything down.) I also wanted to take advantage of Dallas's better, cheaper real estate, especially since I knew I could find a job in tech that would pay more than jobs in NYC. (My hypothesis proved to be correct --- my current salary is $10k more than what I made in NYC.) When I eventually start my business, I intend on starting it here. I have no desire to be in the Valley. I want to try as hard as I can to make something that will have investors coming to me, not the other way around. (i.e. get access to capital for essentially nothing) Since "better" is relative, I always valued space and privacy over proximity and location. It is much easier and cheaper to get a home with a nice amount of land than it is in the NYC Metro. I would have closed already if it weren't for the amount of debt I have outstanding, but it is what it is. I love our current apartment but am afraid that we are going to be unable to afford a house when I'm ready to close and I generally hate maintaining anything myself and the complexity of real estate and taxes therein. I've been planning a move to Texas since 2012. I could have done it in 2010, but I decided to stay for an awesome job opp in NYC (which proved to be the right choice at the time; I am extremely thankful for my time there). The opportunity rose again in 2013, but I stayed for a girl. (We're getting married --- in Dallas --- next year.) I had false starts in 2014 and 2015, but I finally decided to "just do it" in 2016. Took me three months to find a job with the same take home pay; it is surprisingly difficult to find a job 1300 miles away from you! I felt pretty worthless during that time, lol. But I did it!