Yes, social anxiety can be crippling. But as you say, you are fine talking with people you are comfortable with. Well guess what? In software engineering over 9

Yes, social anxiety can be crippling. But as you say, you are fine talking with people you are comfortable with. Well guess what? In software engineering over 90% of your interaction is with team members who you will be comfortable with. Also, sometimes just being an expert at something makes it easier to be confident. You might still be awkward and anxious at a happy hour, but in a meeting or technical discussion you speak confidently/authoritatively, based on your expertise and interest in the subject.