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Off topic, but maybe someone has an explanation to one thing that I wondered quite a few times on mailing lists and that I got reminded of by the E-mail Tatu Yl
by ohlookabird 9y ago
Off topic, but maybe someone has an explanation to one thing that I wondered quite a few times on mailing lists and that I got reminded of by the E-mail Tatu Ylonen sent to Joyce K. Reynolds: Why is it that some people start their E-mail with "Dear Sir"? From where comes the (to me unreasonable) expectation that there is a single male person on the other end (instead of a mixed group)? Are there stereo-types at play or is this a language/translation thing?
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- ams6110 9y agoAssuming you are not a native speaker since you mention language/translation, at the time it was a common salutation when one didn't know the name of the person(s) who would be reading your letter. Gender was not implied. Sometimes people would use "Dear Sir or Madam" but that's more clumsy. I was always taught in school that "he/him/his" was gender neutral if there was no context indicating otherwise. People have started to get more and more annoyed by this, leading to the grammatically incorrect usage of "them/they." Anyone who went to school or learned English in 1980s or earlier would have had learned "Dear Sir" as the standard generic salutation when writing a professional letter. I suppose today one would start such a letter with "Dear Person." That sounds somehow disrespectful to me. There's always "To whom it may concern."
- uiri 9y agothem/they as a gender neutral singular pronoun is not grammatically incorrect. Wikipedia has a rather extensive article on its history and usage. Criticism of this usage as incorrect only arose in the late 19th century. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singular_they https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singular_they
- ams6110 9y agoHeh, well go back to 1978-1982 and tell my English teachers that. I got dinged enough times on improper use of "them/they" that I actually learned the lesson and it still catches my eye like a flashing red light whenever I see the singular usage.
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- ohlookabird 9y agoThanks a lot for shedding some light on this mystery! I was unaware of the fact that "Dear Sir" was meant to be gender neutral at some point. While this convention seems strange to me (not a native speaker, you are right) and I assume it feels strange to women to be addressed with "Dear Sir", there seems to be more to it than my assumption of stereo-types on the sender side.
- isostatic 9y agoStill is neutral, and will be in the future if Star Trek is anything to go by: KIM: Thank you, sir. JANEWAY: Mister Kim, at ease before you sprain something. Ensign, despite Starfleet protocol, I don't like being addressed as sir. KIM: I'm sorry, ma'am. JANEWAY: Ma'am is acceptable in a crunch, but I prefer Captain. We're getting ready to leave. Let me show you to the bridge.
- edoceo 9y agoStar Trek copied the Navy (US&UK style) of addressing all senior officers as Sir, regardless of gender.
- derefr 9y agoA tangent: I've always wondered why the feminist movement didn't push language more toward this direction, rather than the one we got. "Man" was originally a gender-neutral Old English word for human beings (the gendered prefix for males being "wer", as appears in e.g. werewolf.) So why not just expand on that: demand that "man", "sir", "he", "him", "Mr"—and common nouns like "mailman", "fireman", "steward", "host", "master"—be used when referring to both men and women, and thus retroactively de-gender all previously written implicit-male-subject texts for future generations? Instead, we got "he/she", "they", "mail carrier" and "fireperson", which seems like a terrible thing to do to a previously-concise language.
- greglindahl 9y agoYeah, that Shakespeare guy screwed up everything when he used "they" as a singular pronoun.
- phjesusthatguy3 9y agoAbout 20 years ago, I took after my father-in-law in addressing correspondence to unknown persons with (literally) TWIMC:
- Stratoscope 9y agoI generally begin a letter or email to an unknown person or organization with "Greetings," - it is a bit informal, but I've never heard of anyone objecting to it. I never use the dreadfully stuffy "To whom it may concern".
- pmyteh 9y agoProperly stuffy is "To all whom these presents come, greeting", common opening words of English letters patent, one of the oldest forms of "to whom it may concern" still in use. Can be found on grants of arms and various other formal/monarchical documents up to the present day...
- walshemj 9y agoIn English English "dear sir" is still AFAIK the formal way to address a letter to some one unknown. To whom it may concern is some times used to make it less gendered.
- Symbiote 9y agoI was taught "Dear Sir/Madam" at school in England around 2000.
- stordoff 9y agoWhat I was told was that "Dear Sir" should be used when writing to a specific person but they are unknown to you, whereas "To Whom it May Concern" is more appropriate if the letter could be dealt with multiple people (e.g. a department) or you expect it to be passed on to someone before being dealt with. I was also told that it's far from a hard and fast rule, and that it doesn't matter all that much.
- emmelaich 9y agoIt would be often addressed to the head of an organisation even if they never saw it. These days it would be proper to address it Dear Sir/Madam IF you did not know the gender of the person. Besides that, in this case it really was pretty much all Jon Postel making the decisions. Good story - the time that Justin Hall tried to register fuck.com in 1994. http://www.links.net/webpub/fuck.com.html http://www.links.net/webpub/fuck.com.html