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> you have no idea what a tough day of work really is. It seems like people have pretty varied relations to this stuff. I've worked in landscaping, bussing tab

> you have no idea what a tough day of work really is. It seems like people have pretty varied relations to this stuff. I've worked in landscaping, bussing tables, stocking groceries, counter at a bagel shop, among others—and my reflections now are generally on how nice and easy it was to do that work. Being exhausted physically (e.g. 10 hour grocery stocking shifts and 4 mile bike ride each way, uphill on the way back) has upsides to it. There's a kind of satisfaction that happens afterward—you worked hard, and now you're finished. When things are bad in software development, they're just bad: you don't feel rewarded for going through the struggle, and there are rarely neat conclusions to things. Additionally, people may just be 'wired differently' (or have different life experiences or whatever), so that when you see the 24+ year old adults crying, the may actually be going through something more difficult than what you've experienced in a work context.

manyxcxi 10y ago
> Additionally, people may just be 'wired differently'... That leads back to my statement about not judging them per se. I can't ever imagine work/business related stuff, or even just general stress leading me to tears. But I'm also hyper logical and tears just aren't how I shed that storm cloud. I don't look at it as a macho or manly thing either, some of the most rugged 'manly' men that I've ever met (special forces, ridiculous outdoorsmen, Olympic wrestler), and admire greatly for their intestinal fortitude would shed a tear at all kinds of things I couldn't imagine, I just don't think stress would be one of them. I also fully expect in most cases that a root cause for an unexpectedly 'over the top' reaction probably has to do more with something I'm either oblivious to or something else that's going on.
- westoncb 10y ago
  It's possible you're judging 'em a little more than you think—though putting "adult" in quotes may have just been a slip ;)

manyxcxi 10y ago

> Additionally, people may just be 'wired differently'... That leads back to my statement about not judging them per se. I can't ever imagine work/business related stuff, or even just general stress leading me to tears. But I'm also hyper logical and tears just aren't how I shed that storm cloud. I don't look at it as a macho or manly thing either, some of the most rugged 'manly' men that I've ever met (special forces, ridiculous outdoorsmen, Olympic wrestler), and admire greatly for their intestinal fortitude would shed a tear at all kinds of things I couldn't imagine, I just don't think stress would be one of them. I also fully expect in most cases that a root cause for an unexpectedly 'over the top' reaction probably has to do more with something I'm either oblivious to or something else that's going on.

westoncb 10y ago
It's possible you're judging 'em a little more than you think—though putting "adult" in quotes may have just been a slip ;)