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Then it's pretty incomprehensible that you'd label a victim of abuse as "sick".

• maerF0x0 10y ago
  people who know anything about abuse realize that there's almost always enablement on the victims behalf for abuse to continue beyond a very small number of instances. Think of the alcoholic's spouse. The spouse often makes excuses for the alcoholic, often struggles to ensure the finances remain in order, that the alcoholic's responsibilities are taken care of when they're drunk etc. In this case it sounds like codependence. She was afraid and unable to do what she must to avoid the abuse from her spouse . Yes, she's a victim in the initial case(s) but subsequent cases it begs what is out of order in her that she didnt leave, didnt value her and her child enough to seek the health and safety ? Thats the sick part. A healthy person wouldnt take that abuse.