First of all, not all "hitting" is equal. There is a significant difference between punishment (spanking) and abuse (beating). I got the belt as a child from my

First of all, not all "hitting" is equal. There is a significant difference between punishment (spanking) and abuse (beating). I got the belt as a child from my father when my mother's time-outs or light spanks weren't enough. I certainly deserved and needed it to correct my behavior. Second, the difference is your spouse is your equal while your children are dependents. You cannot reasonably punish your equal. You can only reason with her. As a parent however, it is your duty to teach, guide, and discipline your children on how to behave. Depending on the child, harsher punishment may be required to ensure the right values are instilled (I certainly needed it).